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Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some girls that think they are NOT like other girls. Enjoy :)
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Hi, I'm Charlotte Dobre. I'm an actor, reactor, singer and sometimes (not really) comedian. On this channel I do reactions, commentary and occasionally I crack a joke or two. I upload daily, usually 7 days a week, unless life gets crazy or I get lazy. Come hang out, it's a good time.
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I was friends with a girl who kept it “100% real” and “didn’t sugar coat” and it’s literally putting you down and judging you but making it your fault for not being able to “handle it”
URGH, so toxic!
@sha true. The one she made jealous was her closest friend out of us as well. That's a huge red flag right there
@Drowned Cactus🇮🇪 If you are jealous, or they are jealous or they intentionally make you jealous in a friendship then the friendship will barely last.Even if such friendship grows it grows with toxicity. As a girl,my mother always told me if the first three things happen to me then I must end the friendship asap,it's never healthy and I would probably end with a bad reputation.I think it applies for boys too.
I had a friend like that aswell. They'll say rude private stuff about you then laugh it off as a "joke", find pleasure in making one of our friends jealous and they're _always_ the victim! I lived with her for a few weeks when we were younger and it traumatised me. On the other hand, I also have another friend who's really frank without trying to be cool. It's really easy to tell the difference
@dave474c Yeah so right , they just need an excuse to project their negative emotions on others.
"you're not like other girls" isn't a compliment it's an insult against your whole gender. Other girls are fricking cool man. I aspire to be like them. I'm not great despite being a woman. I'm great because I am a woman.
No one is like anyone. Be urself
Exactly. I usually feel like the guy is a mess when he brings down the whole gender just to put you up... Like.. You can still make me feel good without degrading others
I love this comment
When a man says your not like other girlds ive met...it isnt a bad thing and is not necesarly an insult to the other girls.
YES.
A wise woman once said "Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly"
Thank you Morticia Addams for these words of wisdom.
@Tondani Raluswinga I definitely think men can be pick me but the word we usually use for male pick me’s are nice guys. Notice how nice guys use the exact same tactic that pick me up women do. They point out how different they are from the stereotype of an average Guy and try to look very edgy and quirky, While putting down the attributes of stereotypical average guys.
They point out how they don’t work out much and they don’t have as much muscle because they prefer to work out their brain. They point out how they will respect a woman and treat women well way better than their muscle gym bros because gym bros Treat women like they’re disposable, but then they treat women they don’t find attractive as if they’re disposable. They slut shame everyone but themselves and their crushes.
With regards to addiction everyone is susceptible if you have the right combination of risk factors. A lot of doctors are on pain meds to numb the pain of having to see death, disease amputation every day Sam to the point that they’re addicted. And a lot of medical students and resident doctors Are on Ritalin as a performance enhancing drug to assist in concentration so they can study for long periods of time. Some of them are so addicted they cannot likely study without performance-enhancing drugs.
There’s a difference between knowing something is wrong or bad for you and being able to stop.One is the Knowledge the other is the internalization that leads to motivation to stop. When you internalize something it becomes a driving factor which motivates you to stop but before you’ve internalized it you just know it’s bad but knowing it’s bad will not stop you from doing it.
@Tadiwa Chirima do you think men can be pick me's or do you only think like that about girls only? I don't think a doctor and a drug addict can be the same. But what do I know
“Normal's a setting on the dryer" - Harley Quinn
I love you for this.
I was the “chill” girlfriend, which continued me being the “chill” wife, which then got me walked all over, taken for granted, abused in every way, manipulated, cheated on for years, etc.
And any time I tried setting a boundary or confronted him I was then told I wasn’t allowing him to live his life and being “controlling”. Cuz he wanted to be up in the bars every day, disappear on benders for days, cheat whenever he felt like it.
How can you not be chill, I thought you weren’t like those “other” females.. 🙄
Ladies, please, if your partner is like this, and uses those phrases to you, freaking run 🏃♀️!!!
@Nine Wectawski I really hope things get better for you and i'll play for your wellness and happiness❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@ham -sley your right.
When I say I was the chill girlfriend/wife, I mean I didn’t sweat the small stuff. I didn’t get mad at him for complimenting a woman’s outfit, I didn’t get mad at him for wanting to spend 3 days a week in the bars with his friends to watch sports games, I didn’t get upset if he didn’t say I love you multiple times a day to me, I wasn’t jealous, I didn’t worry & make myself sick wondering what he was doing when away from me, and so on.
I didn’t bug him, I didn’t put tons of restrictions on what he could do, how he could move in life, I never asked a lot from him, I didn’t fault him for his issues, I always gave him the benefit of the doubt.
But because I was that way, he took Full advantage of it, he used my way of being, n later on he’d use it against me if I tried to set boundaries, if I confronted him on something.
I was a strong, good, independent lady who didn’t need to be my man’s “keeper”, his mother. If he was gonna step out the relationship on me then fine let him, I will walk away easy, cuz I wasn’t gonna be making myself a nervous wreck all the time tryin to keep my man on the line I thought he should be.
But after years being together and married I let myself down by allowing my relaxed/chill part of me take over too much, as I should have lead more with my gut, my intuition, what my brain was saying to the inner me, had I I probably wouldn’t have gone through all that I had in my relationship/marriage for as long as I did.
When I say I was that person and it got me used, abused, cheated on, lied to, n so on, I mean that my chill personality and headstrong self lead by that, lived by that way when I should have been more careful, I should have listened to my thoughts more, my intuition, other people who were telling me what my husband was out doing, I should have not been so trusting, so “chill”, thinking someone deserves forgiveness and chances, there is a limit to it, I just couldn’t see it.
I grew up in a toxic environment, I wanted to be everything my mother wasn’t. I wanted to be an independent person who was kind, loving, nurturing, chill, carefree, never stay with a man who treats you badly, realize humans are not perfect so give lots of care, chances and forgive, be nurturing, don’t sweat things that aren’t in your control, don’t be timid to trusting, let your walls down and let people in. Just this butterflies & rainbows carefree chill vibe. And holy cow did I end up with the opposite of that with the person I married. The devil, the wolf in sheeps clothing, a narcissist, a cheater, a liar, sneaky & deceitful, abusive in every way, an addict with many addictions, who was as charismatic & manipulative as they come.
I married a man who was all the bad qualities of all the men my mom was with. Funny, ironic even. I strived my whole life to be nothing like her yet ended up with the same type of man as she would, and ended up an empty shell of a woman who allowed her husband to beat on her, (just as she did), get her to quit her career, financially abuse her, emotionally & mentally abuse her, cheat on her for years, alienated her from friends & family, ran a smear campaign on her name to hide his bad side, kept his secrets, lied for him, lost her pride, her self esteem, her confidence & self worth, became a anxiety & depressed person who always on edge.
You can be chill & strong, you can be a person of high value who has lived their life in the most positive of ways, be carefree, loving, nurturing, giving person and still end up with a person who is everything opposite of who you are. I married a narcissist, and if anyone knows about them they know that a narcissist will mirror who you are, mirror your best qualities. So me, thinking I had met and was in this relationship with a person who was like me in many ways, who I absolutely loved & adored, later finding out it was just a mask, a facade to get me, and once he fully had me, once we were married that person who I thought was so great started to break off his mask piece by piece. And by the time it was all the way off I was not even myself anymore. I had been so devalued and broken down that I put fog covered glasses on, protecting my inner self the best I could, because had I not at that time, I honestly can say I probably wouldn’t be here today, whether by his hands or from myself, I’d be dead.
@goodsoup don't confuse chill/cool with weak. A real cool girl doesn't care about things that don't matter but they do set boundaries. And they don't let ppl walk over them. Idk why yall are confusing chill with submissive
@InterviewWithDevin lmao exactly
"Chill" means u don't care about stuff that doesn't matter and don't get sensitive over the littlest things. Chill doesn't mean you'll let ppl walk all over you
When I was young I purposefully tried to avoid super feminine things cause society told me it was frivolous and stupid, and as an adult I regret depriving myself of these experiences. Piece of advice for any young girls out here dissing on 'other girls' and trying to differentiate yourself from 'girly' things, just let yourself enjoy it. Give it a try, and if it's not for you and doesn't make you happy that's fine, but don't let what other people think about femininity and feminine activities persuade you. Make sure it's your OWN decision.
Same here. When I finally reached 18, and I tried just styling my hair to get into "girly" stuff, I felt so happy after I looked in the mirror. It's inexplicable. It made me less depressed and pressured of my studies and I began to look forward into styling myself, and eventually fell into a rabbit hole of girly stuff: buying stuffed toys, buying dresses, choosing make up, shoes, accessories, cooking, and sewing. I can't explain why but I felt very happy like I literally felt, for the first time, like a woman and it made me happy being born one.
@Joyie are you a boy or girl? I'm curious because people wanted you to act like a man so my guess would be a feminine boy but then again, could be a feminine girl that people wanted to be a boy
I remember people trying to do this to me as a kid and teen and I pushed back HARD! Was sexually harassed on 2 occasions to dress and act like a man and it still grosses me out to this day. I mean I wouldn’t even wear pants - everything was skirts and dresses. (Still is) Could not get me to play sports to save my life. Most athletic things I did all had some girly aspect to them like Dancing, cheer, colorguard etc. And all I ever cared about was drawing and playing with dolls. Point is you couldn’t make me less girly even if you forced me and many have tried. You just gotta be true to you and let other people figure it out. Once they realize they can’t manipulate you into siding with their own emotional baggage they’ll let you be.
LITERALLY ME!! The worst part for me was sleeping on one direction bc it was “cool” to hate them and only loving them after they broke up :’(
Same here. But I avoided feminine things cause my father made me think feminity=weakness. At some point I realized he wanted a boy, so he made one out of me...
The girls in the video that said "All the boys want me instead of my friends" Are probably that one friend that thinks everyone has a crush on them, like "He looked at me, he obviously likes me. He said he liked my shirt! He's sobsessed with me!"
Yeah but this actually happens tho
I had a "friend" that when we hanged out, guys would stop talking to her then start talking to me when they saw me and ignoring her after
This happened in multiple parties until she left me
I got heart broken but I get it
Like i have this bestie who is super "friendly" that she tries to be close with every single male friend we have and then not even a week later, she'll say she has a crush on that one guy and she feels he likes her back. I just facepalmed because she wasn't aware that the dude had a girlfriend
You know when I was young, I used to think that I didn't get along with women, I got along with men better or older women, but it wasn't that... It was THESE girls I didn't get along with there just happened to be a lot of them in my vicinity
😂😂😂😂
Those the ones that choose male validation over friends... Daddy issues
I always find it funny when people go "I'm not like other people" like bitch yes you are. EVERYONE is different. You will 100% share some interests with other people, and even someone you share almost every interest with, is bound have at least one thing they dislike that you like. You are not a unicorn. You are not the last of your kind in an otherwise extinct species. 🤣 shocking fact, you are not special. Sit down and try loving other people as much as you love yourself. 🤦♀️
Once a entitled woman was buying toilet paper and she said that to me "I'm not like other people".
I said to her:"Ma'am, you're buying toilet paper YOU ARE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, you poop just like every other human being", yeah, I know, that was savage, but I've never liked that women, I've known her for years.
@Sierra Fairbanks oh for sure, but the more you see of it the more you realize it's just a tendency that happens where if you don't get enough validation from people, especially as a child, you tend to act superior to compensate. Superiority often comes with the validation we so desperately crave, but it could just be a generalization. I had many friends way back who admitted they didn't like themselves during their nlog phase 🥲 and as you grow older, you kind of see in yourselves & others that the moment you start loving yourself you also tend to gain more respect and appreciation for others who do the same.
@ice blink and good for you for embracing yourself. People shouldn't feel afraid of admitting they like a color because they are worried people won't accept them if they like that color. This is the world we live in. 🤦♀️ IDK how we can change it, but as the saying goes, "be the change you wish to see in the world."
@ice blink it is one thing to pretend you don't like something because you are afraid you might be judged for it. I mean almost everyone at some point in their life will hide an interest or hobby because they are uncertain how it will be perceived by others. But the problem is how these people shame everyone else for not being like them. In my freshman year of high school, I lied about not liking a band I genuinely enjoyed saying their music was lame because the kids I started hanging out with, liked heavier music. But I wasn't like "ya im not like *those* people who like that band. What losers." Someone isn't superior just because they have different tastes in stuff or enjoying doing things that may or may not be mainstream.
Tbh they probably hate themselves. I remember back in my nlog phase I used to pretend I didn't like pink even though it's such a cute fking color. I just did it so people would like me bc I didn't think they could like me for myself 😭 anyway now my closet is filled with so much fucking pink I could probably live in it now
You can be tactful and considerate, while still being honest and real.
TACT does not mean "sugar-coating."
Say it twice!’
People forget that
THAAAAAANK YOU!!!!!
There's a saying that goes: "Self praise is no recommendation" If these girls really are as different as they think they are, people will be telling them, they won't be telling people.
Yes, usually the more distant the person complimenting is from the person/thing being complimented, the more weight that compliment carries. I.e.: if you get complemented by a total stranger vs. by your mom - the most "distant" carries the most weight. With that in mind, a self-compliment is THE LEAST distant you could be from what you're complimenting lol no wonder it comes off as less meaningful
@Tondani Raluswinga
Never said there was. But the truth about someones character is known by what they show rather what they say.
Theres nothing wrong with self praise.
Well, I for one appreciate when someone says "I'm not like other girls". Thank you, for letting me know in advance, that you're an immature person, that never bothers with getting to know other people and therefore never realised that every girl is actually more than some teen rom-com one-dimensional stereotype. Imma just stop waisting my time talking to you and walk away - probably to play games, like almost all girls I know.
I'm a 34 year old woman living in the south of Scotland, absolutely warms the cockles to hear people across the pond were also playing 'light as a feather, stiff as a board'......The Craft had a lot to answer for in my teenage years 🤣💜
Aw, i miss Scotland sorry, just reminiscing lol
The Craft,... what a movie!!
Ahahaa YEP, same
In high school I was "not like other girls" in that I had zero interests that fit with the other girls. I found it very hard to make friends and the friends I had were a bit more sexually minded than me and it was boring to hang out with people who wouldn't shut up about "attractive guys". It would be another 10 years before I could even vaguely understand what they meant.
I was just like them, only with different interests, and it made school a place I didn't want to be.
In 9th grade, I went to a week long event and tried to hang out with the girls when we were set loose to go wander the city for a day. They immediately went to lingerie and jewelry stores and I was incredibly awkward. To the point that someone mentioned I looked like a bodyguard rather than a patron, and was in turn making the girls feel uncomfortable. When we passed a group of the guys I gladly joined them. They literally only went to sports stores and I was even more bored and annoyed. Eventually I peeled off and spent time alone in the bookstore because it was next to the cafe one of the adult supervisors was in.
It sucked. "Not like other girls" tends to mean you're alone. Thankfully I was just like many other people, just not like the people I was surrounded by, and it took going to college to find my crowd.
That last sentence made me so happy. Good for you.
There’s nothing that makes my blood boil more than the “I don’t sugar coat it. I keep it real. I’m just really blunt” girls! There’s a difference between “keeping it real” and just being a mean mean person
These types of things are actually really difficult for me. I grew up in a home that was constantly surrounding me in 'masculine' things while also telling me to like 'feminine' things and be 'feminine' without being 'like other girls'. For example, on a day to day basis we talk about Marvel and DC, we watch LOTR and Star Wars, go fishing, watch anime, play videogames, we go camping and do sports. But for my birthday or Christmas I'd get barbie dolls, stuffed animals, make up sets, dresses, shoes, clothes, and this continued until I was about 16. My parents, dad specifically, didn't want me to be 'like other girls' but didn't want me to be 'like boys' either (because he's homophobic and transphobic). It was really confusing to grow up like that and I ended up hating myself BECUASE I 'wasn't like other girls'. I now know that there are tons of people like me and that it's okay for me to like whatever I like and have hobbies that are 'unconventional', but back then it really sucked and I tried my best to hide who I was. These girls give me heavy second-hand embarrassment, but I also really just want to know why they feel the way they do.
I hear it a lot “You’re not like other girls.”
“I guess that’s what my wife likes.”
Great way to shut down the awkward flirting. Flirting should not happen at work. It just shouldn’t. My sis got a fake wedding ring to get creeps to back off.
Not even going to lie, I totally went through this phase as a teen but thankfully grew out of it fairly quickly and afterwards developed a hell of a lot more respect for my fellow lovely female peers and ultimately found that I actually could relate far more to them then I ever had with the opposite sex however, I also feel like it’s worth mentioning this next point too and that is, believe it or not, the dudes were pretty much just as equally and frequently bad for gossiping as I had once believed only girls did and what I found even more interesting was that they actually seemed to enjoy creating drama and sh** disturbing a lot as well…I feel like it was when I reached this realization, it became the turning point for me that officially ended the phase lol!! Of course this was all just according to my own personal experience though lol!! 😬🤭😆❤️❤️🤷🏻♀️
Charlotte, your editors are AWESOME! The little bits they keep adding in are absolute GOLD! They deserve a raise, just sayin
The "I'm not like other girls" always confused me, because literally my best friends and I are/were alt women who like video games, anime, reading, etc. Plus I know multiple women who like things that put in the "not like other girls" category. They aren't unicorns or a mythological creature just unique people.
I wonder what would happen if you put all these "I'm not like other girls" girls in the same room. Would they bond over not being like other girls? Or would they try to best each other in a "super chill" argument
Spoiler alert from a female: they'd try to out compete each other. We're HELLA competitive against other women and it sucks.
Both. You’ve got the immature ones who’d probably bond and grow from the experience. The ones who are grown and still act this way would throw hands
@Emeraldwitch30 You honestly say that “chill” leave that room real quick😂😂
They'd argue over being the most chill
Let there be CARNAGE.. That's my bet.
This made me realize I used to be an accidental "pick me" girl 😆. I used to say I wasn't like other girls but it was meant as a warning of how odd i was. I was going through some stuff and didn't understand myself. It really wasn't meant as a brag. May have been 1 of the reasons I wasn't liked. Oops
I like your comment because other people might be afraid to admit that THEY were the reason they weren’t liked. Progress is good!
I just listened to the audio version of Ali Wong's book, which she narrates. Highly recommend!
All these women trying so hard for male attention while putting down other girls/women makes me very scared for them. Live your life, be who you are, and don't worry about other's approval.
Finally, it's possible to have kids AND a fridge full of healthy food. I know. I have both.
It always gives me creepy vibes when a girl talks up how "tiny" and "smol" she is. Its like, one thing to accept its one of your quirks and unique traits. Its another to act like it automatically makes you appealing to everyone. Tall girls turn the heads when they come into the room and i envy that presence.
"Being different" and "wanting to be different" two very different things. Wanting for everyone around to see how "different" you are is yet another.
Moral of the story:
Be unique just like everyone else.
@Miss Caramel That's the point
This is the hipster philosophy
@Arielle Binette its exhausting, because honestly we cannot all be the same or look the same. I don't see men get hate for being different.
Im a carpenter and legit just saying it « yeah im a carpenter » gets me the she a pick me comment… like girl.. I look homeless and dirty all the time. The dudes I work with are far from the cream of the crop of the masculine gender lol, the jokes I hear makes me dummer everyday. In what world would that be a reason to pick me? It actually drives guys away a lot lol im allowed to do something girls don’t usually do because I felt like it and like it.
@Caia VanAmell Thank you for this comment, I searched for this and is really cool
"I'm so short and my hands are so small" I honestly feel personally attacked, those are two of my attributes that I take no pride in as a woman. I'm like 5'2 and my mother claims that my hands stopped growing when I was like, five, and I am being relentlessly teased for these things by my family😂😂
Saaaaame
Technically I'm 5'1.75" but every time I've been measured they just round it up
I didn't even know I had small hands until junior year of high school because one of my sisters kept telling me how "tiny" my hands are
I will literally forget these things on a regular basis too
Like I have to remind myself to buy petite pants so I don't have to hem them, and most of the time I'll forget and not even hem them for a long ass time
Being short isn't all that fun
I love that you did this video lol. Sometimes people need a good wake up call, especially girls like THIS who feed the toxic feminine culture that seems to surround social media!
The concept of satire is hard to grasp (and express) these days, even when written in bold letters. Also, the "not like other girls" thing is internalized misogyny. I did it at one point in my life, glad I got over it.
Honestly, I prefer my guy friends over girl friends. I feel like I can “be myself”. No cattiness, feeling of “competition”, or feelings of having to be a certain way. My guys just accept me for who I am, and I like that lol.
Hey charlotte! Hope you’re doing okay. Thank you for being open and honest about your mental health. I’m a mom of a 22 year old and 14 year old daughters and I just hope one day they’ll be as open and true to yourself as you are.
For the one that was talking about how she is so small, for me it was the opposite. I would always talk about how tall I am. Then the haters would be like, "Tasha you are not tall". So after seeing myself in pictures next to other people and some self reflection, I had to concede that 5'3 is in fact, NOT tall. 😆 🤣 I still think they were hating tho. Lmao
I had a "strong independent feminist" friend who lived on attention, she'd only talk about how great she is all the time and how many marriage proposals she's recived but declined from successful men because "they saw something different in her" and she isn't looking for a man and just wants to focus on herself. at first I was like: I'm glad you're confident and know your worth. But then it was obvious how insecure she was, we were invited to her friend's birthday party and she took one of my bras "I'm much larger" so the guy she's been trying to get to like her "realize what he's missing on" I'd suggest to get up and exercise and she'd exclusively do butt excercises telling me she wants to build her physical strength. I'd watch some kpop dances to grasp an idea so that I'd practice it later she'd laugh at me saying that I only watch dances instead of learning them, men would be disappointed because they like a woman who could move. The thing is, I'm actually a dancer but stopped due to my foot condition, I'm just too shy to dance around her, unlike her who's honestly a really bad dancer. And when anyone would compliment me on anything she'd immediately jump and say "she learned that from me" her wanting to focus on herself was just partying and responding to any catcall because "it's not her fault she grabs attention and boys just can't resist her" eventually, she tricked me into not going to the birthday party so she wouldn't have any competition. I later recognized how she'd put me down and point out the insecurity that I've mentioned once, if anyone told me I looked pretty she'd say "right? I always tell her that she'd be perfect if she got a nose job"
On new year's eve we went to the big tree in the city and guys would approach and ask for pictures (we live abroad so we hold a striking difference in appearance than the natives) she immediately acted like a diva being followed by paparazzi and saying "I'm proud of my looks but it could sometimes be a burden" and just when she said that the same guys came to me asking to take pictures and she was pissed. I'm not a racist but where we were that was very common, since she was black (unlike me) it turned out that almost everyone asked for a picture with her to actually make fun of her. I literally heard one of the guys saying in native "look at the monkey I took pictures with, no need to go to the zoo" as heartbreaking as that was, it was also funny how she thought too highly of herself thinking that people were worshipping her while they were actually bullying her.
@H H Russia
woah what country was this?
The “pick me” girl energy is strong with this video. I feel like these girls have to be somewhat self aware of the crap they think makes them “not like other girls”. But I guess that might be giving them too much credit, and considering all the credit they give themselves already, it’s a problem.
If any one is confused: None of these “personality traits ✨” they’re claiming are bad or wrong. It’s just the fact that they’re comparing them to others in a condescending way, with the intention to seem more attractive (usually to men). That’s what makes them Pick Me’s 😩
@Miss Caramel Who's gonna tell her that nobody is falling for her bs cause we know that the only reason she is announcing it and being condescending is to be noticed by a man 😂
But funny enough none of these are ✨personality traits✨
At the same time they be like "You're chasing for that man. I'm chasing my dreams. We are not the same"
@Uppity Bee lol this made me laugh
When someone says "I keep it 100% real" "No sugar coating" "I give tough love" and my absolute favorite "I have no filter" that is code for "I'm a biatch who will disrespect you at every chance I get under the guise that I'm your friend." No wonder no one wants to put up with that bs.
Sometimes I feel like people who fall under the "I'm not like other ______" category either should consider expanding their friend group to include different types of people or at least understand that gender stereotypes are not applicable to everyone of that specific gender...
But that's just my opinion.
The social aspect of this is sad. Are teens still growing up in a misogynistic world where "girly" has a negative meaning?
All the boys like me - is narcissism and some youngsters grow out of it.
But "Ewww, girly things" is internalised misogyny which hopefully they also grow out of. Just shocking a bit. I thought we have come past this by now.
Lol 😂 I agree on the scape room. Went to a birthday party once where we went to one and the theme my friend picked was haunted cabin. And let me tell you, it was a little too realistic and I couldn’t think because I was so freaked out 😂😂😂 It was not fun, felt like a Halloween haunted house
"I'm not like other girls... I read books while other girls are on social media"
... she tells everybody on her social media pages
@Derek Johns or actually ... books? ;-)
I like the one whose flex was that "she likes to eat pizza". I literally can't think of anyone who doesn't like to eat pizza, including my vegan friends!
Oh no, and to think I still read dead tree books as well as play games on my tablet, and crochet. I must be super not like the other women. #sarcasm 😲
And I couldn't help but think "you read books on your phone? You don't have like a kindle or something?"
OUCH. I was that girl for a couple of years. I was so young, so traumatized an so so so alone. Suffering starts when you comparing yourself to others (outside fair competition situations), even if you feel like you are winning at the time.
I’m pretty sure my “I’m not like other girls” phase, when I was a teen, was more of me wishing I was pretty and smart like other girls.
When I see the "I'm NoT lIkE oThEr GiRlS" it always makes me laugh! I've always been one of the boys, most of my friends were male, I don't wear make up and rather read a book than go clubbing. However I have a couple of close friends and they are female and rock! I'm not better than anyone and neither are you sis!
Not you Charlotte, you are a Queen!
I did go through this "pick me" phase when i was younger but it was definitely a lot of insecurity issues and internalized misogyny.
"These other women keep wearing makeup and giving society unrealistic expectations about how a woman should look! Women who wear makeup are just fake! I'm never going to be fake like them, I'm gonna keep it real!"
Fast forward to now and i LOVE makeup 😂😂
"I only hang out with guys just because they're, like, less drama." Girl, please. Some of the most cliquey people I know are men, and don't bother thinking age matters because I used to work for a veteran's club and saw men my grandpa's age bringing the most drama.
@Maya guys have drama and gossip a lot, in Uni guys I take class with has a group chat where they gossip about people.. Was told by the girls who are friends with them, funny thing is those same guy friends talked shit about those girl friends too. So yes guys love to gossip too and alot.
@Daren "I never said men don't gossip, I said its more women than men who do gossiping"
Hard disagree, the only reason why people think that girls gossip more is because every interaction among girls is painted that way while with guys, no matter how much they gossip or cause drama, people refuse to see it for what it is.
Thank you for sharing this it made me giggle envisioning Grandpa drama!🤣
Okay THIS!! It’s so true. Men love to gossip because well, most people love to gossip
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 not the grandpa's😂😂😂😂
As someone who has a group of guy friends, because that's mostly who I work with, men aren't less drama. They just let their friends disrespect them.
THIS.^
I grew up in a family with a lot of women right. 7 aunts, 6 sisters, multiple female cousins. And I learned to never trust a woman who is constantly saying that she doesn’t like hanging around women. Women are very good at calling out bullahit, men tend to let it slide. A lot of pick-me’s that I’ve met are just girly-girls who crave male attention so bad, they’ve become anti-girly-girl because they believe they need to in order to attract more attention.
And I don’t trust a woman who is constantly putting other women down. If you can’t find anything good to say about women in general, it’s not them. It’s you.
I love you Charlotte! No one can make me laugh like you when i‘m having a bad day 😘❤️
Despite your modesty Charllotte, are you ARE different! You're a one of one and so glad you share your smile with us!
I used to go clubbing a lot in my early 20’s. Looking back I don’t know where I found the energy. These days I’m ready for a nap 10 minutes after rolling out of bed. I guess I’m not like the girl I used to be 🤷♀️
My brother's consider me more of a brother and I historically had a hard time with female friendships, and I really feel uncomfortable knowing I probably sounded like this. As an adult I understand I'm neuro-derivative, which is probably why most of my female friends were also the "weird" ones. I just need people to be straightforward, I could never read between lines so I never really understood when people had an issue with me.
Oh, you have to love the ones that say they "never wear makeup" when they clearly do. Yeah, maybe a dude can't tell you are wearing light makeup, but us other women are on to you. No one looks that good naturally. Tinted Moisturizer, fake freckles, brow gel, and lip gloss are still makeup.
I loved this video you should do more like this deffently a part 2!
"Its so relatable I'm such a chill girl too" "I'm basically like one of the guys" ☺
I really enjoyed the dose of sarcasm in this video.
"I'm not like other girls" is something I felt from the ages of like 12-14. I feel like it's a very immature way to look at yourself and other women, but I don't mind preteens and teens going through it as I feel everyone is very insecure at that age.
@Tondani Raluswinga Being "like other girls" does not mean relating to every girl. The whole "I'm not like other girls" trend is generally girls putting other girls down and trying to make themselves sound superior. Being "like other girls" means understanding that its okay to not be 100% different and unique and that having similarities is okay.
Do you really genuinely believe that you are like other girls and you can relate to every single girl in the world? As someone who was bullied for not having a certain body type ( curvy and big boobs) I definitely am not like other girls and that has been made very clear to me.
Yeah. It’s kind of a natural thing for young girls to do as they discover their own hobbies and interests. It can develop into something toxic tho if they don’t grow out of it
@stitchncoffee Oh yeah I definitely get that, some people get bullied for it. It definitely does depend on the person because weirdness can subjective.
@Alicia if a girl is being mean weird it's usually because "normal" people are mean to her for being weird so it just depends on the girl's situation i guess. Weirdos usually have to defend themselves from "normal" people who look down on them.
"I'm not like those other girls, I'm more of a laid back, cool, non-attention seeking introvert who doesn't have to post all over social media that they're not like other girls".. as she posts that she's not like those other girls on every social media platform she can create an account for.
"I'm not like other girls." Brags almost every girl when they're young. I include myself in this group(I'm middle-aged now). We all like to think we're were really unique in some way. Newsflash: we're not, we're really not.
“Be chill but have standards” - words to live by
Girl you had me cracking up all through this episode. Nice
I have generally found that the "I keep it 100% real, no sugarcoating, I'm brutally honest, I'm just blunt" people are making excuses for their rudeness and lack of manners, compassion, or civility. Male or female. You can be honest with your friends without being an A-hole. Don't tell me you're a "diva" and expect to be praised for being self - centered and entitled, either.
YES!!! Love this...couldn't be more true
exactly.. !!
You got that right!
To be honest, I feel that there’s no such thing as ‘normalcy’ or ‘perfection’. Everyone is normal in their own way, and if there was such a thing as a perfect person, they’d be: happy/sad, angry/calm, ugly/pretty and so on. They would be the opposite at the same time which wouldn’t work
Ohhhhhhh!!! That "really small" shit hit home HARD!!! Hated going shopping with friends. Clothes never fit right. Just felt like a big, huge ogre everytime we went to the mall (this was 100yrs ago in the 80's🤓). Tall ladies want to feel small too, sometimes.
My pick me girl phase was HUGE when I was 13-15.
I was severely depressed and was diagnosed with social anxiety because my mom fell sick. I was "left alone" because no one could take care of me at the time and I was starving for attention..
I didn't know exactly what to do and everyone hated me.
It was kinda awful.
So... I have High Functioning Autism and I've always found it hard to relate to people just because I can't always figure out what their intentions are....
But one thing I DO notice about women is every one that I've met who says she "can't stand other FEmales" is that she always ends up having the exact qualities that she says she hates in other "FEmales".
I put the emphasis on FE because they almost always say it like that lol
Also, that one about the slumber party was kind of upsetting. I would have loved to go to a slumber party. Like ever.
i think we all went through a 'I'm not like other girls' phase when we were young teens, i know i did. the difference is, we all grew out of it but these ladies clearly didn't.
@dogzdinner chum i would disagree that social media pressures girls to be unique and that's what's caused this. If anything, social media is what is teaching young women that they CAN BE unique and be whoever they want to be and don't have to compare themselves to others. Ofc, it all depends on what type of content you follow, but growing up for me meant recognizing society's expectations of women, and doing whatever the hell I want regardless of if it fit into that expectation or didn't. And there are just so many more outlets for young women to learn about feminism than even when I was younger (late 20s now). right now i have pink and purple hair and wear things like butterfly wings and hot pink platforms and colorful floral eyeliner. I don't at all feel pressured to be different. I feel free to be different. For me, it's so much more exhausting to try to fit in. And the confidence I have now, thanks to how much I have learned about feminism and grown bc of it, I try my best to share w other women to make them feel the same. Even if what makes them feel like themselves is a big oversized sweatshirt and baggy pants (or whatever). "being like other girls" is so much more about how you feel vs how you act or look.
Back in the 'olden days' all we wanted was to be like other girls TBH! Nobody wanted to be the weird one!LOL
Thanks to social media nowadays girls feel pressured to somehow be unique and interesting and also fit in at the same time....sounds exhausting!
(Im not like other girls.....Im a grownas* old woman!!).
Yeah, I had that phase too, but I thought that guys did not liked me because I was not like the other girls around me. I have always envied girls that knew how to dress well and about makeup. I lived with my dad and older brother so I never had a chance to learn anything more girly until being an adult and having access to youtube (as I was too shy to ask my friends about it).
when we grow up in a misogynistic society, when we grow to be teenagers, we start to subconsciously realize these boxes and stereotypes we put women in. And its very natural to want to separate ourselves from those stereotypes, so many of us start to overcompensate by putting those labels and boxes on OTHER women, "not me". and then many of us start to realize, as we get older, that that was a defense mechanism. It took a long time for me personally to embrace not only my gender, but my femininity. To see it wasn't a weakness like I'd been told by society all these years. Unfortunately not all of us get to this point (or some just take longer than others). It makes me sad to see women who have not yet realized that being friends with other women who have done the work is such a blessing and a magical community to be a part of.
The light as a feather still as a board meme got me dying laughing 🤣
Hey Charlotte, love your reaction to Reddit stories. Thats it, no further thoughts.
Take my updoot for the hiss at 8:07 . I literally laughed out loud. Love your work!
So I work with teens, and they recently learned about the Enneagram test. I had a pick me girl bragging about how she was a 4 (“the Individualist”) and she was SO MAD when I was like “oh cool! Me too!” Like… hun, everyone is allowed to be unique. Don’t get mad because a woman twice your age is the same enneagram number as you.
Young tall women, please take it from an older tall woman: Never feel insecure because of your height. You are a bad ass. If a guy tells you not to wear heels, please interpret that as "I'm a little afraid of you" then think to yourself "Good, you should be." If another girl degrades you for not being small, remember, you will see all the good bands while they stare at other people's backs...and f those guys and girls.
I am 6ft tall and I approve this message. Tip: keep ur stomach muscles strong for that sexy posture. Bending a lot puts strain on your back. XOXO
@ErIka Russell I love that! And I love that you love her confidence
@The Pie Queen I never trip on anyone’s size-tall, short, narrow or wide. Most people think being tall is better than being short, but it sounds annoying not to be able to buy clothes off the rack! I’m just average short, 5’3”, so clothes are not an issue-I don’t even need to get petite most of the time.
I always thaught that being tall is good think, shows you have good genes, you and your ancestors were being fed properly and didnt get ill. People from the higher class and developed countries are tall. More over most first ladies are tall..
@Daren women wear heels to feel sexy and empowered. Not to look taller.
From my experience, once everyone has reach full adulthood, men bring waaayyy more drama.
I love the cool award you got. Nice.
Have a good day, Ms. Charlotte.
Also, you never fail to make me laugh and occasionally spit my drink all over my screen.
Hey... you owe me a screen. lmfao. jk
Internalized misogyny is like the killer calling from inside the house.
100% guys who say they like "chill girls" often lose their shit whenever you don't let them push your boundaries.
Also love when a girl lists a very basic things as some kind of gift as if no other women could achieve something so amazing as making a sandwhich, liking soda or enjoying playing a game.
You know the phrase, "Don't be that guy?" Well, "I'm not like other girls," is the flip side to that. Putting other ladies down is not something to aspire to!
We should aspire to be petty potato queens!!! 👑🥔 ...but still kind.
This x
why did i read this in her voice thooo
Very similar, I think it's more equivalent to "But I'm a nice guy".
Everyone needs to be a petty potato queen!
@Emily Schueller Where did I say to bully women?
Used to be a pick me girl unintentionally when I was in high school. Okay and from personal experience I can say any girl who says she doesn’t like girls cause they’re too much drama probably also goes and gossips to the guys. But I was short and only had guy friends in high school because it boosted my ego to have them teasing and stuff and feel desired and different
Editing is on point! 🤣 “Jesus Christ!” After you asking if we’ve played light as a feather stiff as a board 😭🤣 love you Charlotte
I loved the end quote 👍
"We're not like other girls, and we are 😄 and that's okay."
So out of curiosity because I've always been made out to feel weird or not like the typical girl around me because I was a tomboy, athlete, not super girly, tree climbing mud slinging, and now I'm an engineer (where all of the other females are in more stereotypical fenale roles for the company) and unfortunately brutally honest (which I have adjusted because I later realized I was being more mean than anything a lot of the times and didn't realize that I was actually hurting people but back to the point)...if you're whole life you're told you're not the typical female especially for those around you and you notice that you aren't, how do you not think that way? I mean now I do hang out with girls more and am a bit more girly but the non-typical female trope is still there and constantly in my face simply because of my job. I definitely don't want to have "Pick me" tendencies or attitude because of it
I used to think all the girls hated me because I was pretty and all the boys liked me . Turns out, I was socially somewhat inept, rude (without meaning to be) and inconsiderate (also not on purpose but that is what being inconsiderate is comprised of. Being too socially stupid to consider other people and how they feel at that time.) Certain types of boys and young men tend to give ALL that a pass if you are decent looking and its not a compliment. So their liking me was pretty meaningless. I mean, look at all the beautiful women who have lots of friends . They still have all the boys they want and their friends don’t hate them for that. I as I grew up to be more competent socially, I started to enjoy all my friendships with women much more as well as the friendships I have with everyone in general. What i had before was pretty shallow and meaningless. I hope other “pick me” types figure it out.
@Roger Ramjet you’ve been hanging around the wrong females if that is your perception of us all. Kinda shitty to assume all are like that. It’s possible you don’t understand females as much as you think. I’ve never heard any male say a female has gaslighted them but maybe it’s because I don’t hang out with either gender that would do that.
@kayleighandhercat I named my cat Kevin. I got a lot of weird looks for that but he just looked like a Kevin to me. 🤷🏼♀️🖤
@Rizerez I agree. I'm not sure I've met one woman like that in my entire life. I do see them on TV tho so maybe it looks like they're everywhere? Just avoid them and move on to "normal" girls. They're literally everywhere ;)
@Roger Ramjet Again, just because you've observed people of one gender behaving in a certain way, doesn't mean other genders are the opposite. Also I know a lot of women that don't fit in all of what you're describing there, actually the most women I know don't. Many women weren't raised being treated like princesses too. What you're describing is unhealthy social behaviour that occurs in many ways which are connected to society's gender roles, and consequently different ways exist in any gender.
A question some of these people in the video might find it helpful to ask: "how do I talk about things on the internet that I like to do that are ACTUALLY fun and quirky and stuff, without seeming like a "not like those other girls" girl???"
And the answer is... in the vast majority of situations, you don't. You can't! Tone, context, body language and audience are all essential factors for determining when talking about yourself will be well-received without your seeming self-centered or stupid. Those things cannot be controlled online, because you don't get to pick and choose any of the who/what/when/where/why on behalf of the viewer. Save your individuality for the real world; there's virtually no such thing on the 'World Wide Web'...
Ali Wong Supremacy! And in a way I identify with one of those posts. I also thought that everything related to couples while I was studying to enter university was a waste of time.
It turned out that I didn't like men or women and that's why I didn't understand what was so good about romantic relationships.
I used to be a pick me girl just because my dad made me hate everything that was considered feminine, aka "a weakness" in his mind. I truly think he wanted a boy at this point. It took me years to realize and I'm still struggling with it a bit.
The girl at the end with the "lazy eye" rolling about in it's socket had me laughing out loud.
Noticeable but not necessarily all that attractive.
Saying “I’m not like other girls” is the most typical thing I’ve ever heard.
@Twiggy Stardust Nowadays girls also play games. Who the heck doesn't know Fortnight and Call of Duty?
😅
@Twiggy Stardust Was about to reply with the exact same thing.
It’s like when you hear a guy say it “I’m not like the other men you’ve known.” How does he know them? Do they unconsciously network or something? And why is he behaving like them? No, thank you 🙏 NEXT!
Therein, lies the joke.
I remember the sleepovers with my best friend 🤣 watching Bollywood eating insane amounts of ice cream and talking about our teen problems oh i miss that time...now i have trouble making friends because people are intimidated by my Looks 🤷😂
I'm literally like all the other girls, I enjoy my hobbies, wear the clothes I like, put on makeup if I feel like it and choose to participate on a level that I am comfortable with. Girls are great why wouldn't you want to be like one?
I feel like I mostly fit in no where 😂 boys or girls. And when I fit in it doesn’t matter what group it is, mixed or only for boys or girls. It really depends on people.
I love clubbing when I was younger. Me and my friends would danced together. I don't get why dancing is a bad thing.
"I'm not like other girls"....is literally just "I'm insecure about myself compared to the fabulous girls around me"
Had a moment to share that happened Saturday. I went to pick up my daughter from a friend's house. My daughter was texting me to get her because her friend was stressing her out. I own a lifted truck so as soon as I pull up to her friend's house her friend is screaming "OMG that is your mom's truck? It's ugly she needs to get herself a Mercedes instead." Yes I had on cowboy boots and a long dress and she proceeded to tear apart what I was wearing. "OMG you need to get a stylist. You look like you just came from church on a filthy country road." I told her I just came from our church I was cleaning it and getting it ready for tomorrow service when my daughter text. She then proceeded to tell me I need to get my daughter hair and nails done every week because she looks like a mess. I said sweetheart don't quit your day job. "OMG I am 16 and don't have a day job. I'm an influencer." I told my daughter to get in the truck we're going back to church to finish setting up for Easter dinner the next day. Her friend then proceeded to scream over the engine of the truck for my daughter to come back next week more presentable and in a better vehicle. I asked my daughter does she always act like that. She said unfortunately yes. And she said you and dad needs to give me 200 dollars every week for me to get my hair and nails done. I said sweetheart there's 10 people in our house. I rather spend 200 bucks on something useful instead of that. Does her parents for real let her do that every week. She told me her parents do. I asked why my daughter was friend's with her. My daughter said I feel sorry for her because she has no friends. I wonder why
Omg you are so adorable! Subscribed and currently binging your content 👏 😘♥️✨ PS the internalized misogyny is bananas.
"Hold my poodle" it gets me everytime 😂😂😂
I went and joined a roup on FB for women in Agriculture, just so I could find other girls like me. It's nice to know other people that you have things in common with.
Different walks of life doesn't mean you're not like others.
Why do you think women are obsessed with being the same literally we love being put in boxes and then complain about it later. I dont see men getting hated on for being who they are.
That sounds like a really fun group! I have a small ranch and raise goats and chickens, but I'd love to learn to grow food too. Now I have all this manure, I should use it! Composted chicken poop is a fantastic soil amendment. I'd just love to meet friends who like discussing things like composting chicken poop!
My friends and I's slumber party look like: Ordering pizza or some other nice food, playing Nintendo Switch and then talking shit together, sometimes we also do self-care sessions.
We are very much like other girls and we love it. 💜
Be grateful she said this foolishness out loud, at least you know what you’re dealing with! It’s the ones that feel this way about their girl friends and hate on you quietly! Another thing they are usually the most insecure! 🤷🏽♀️
I mean... I've always meant it when I said, "I have no filter", but that's more due to the "at the time" undiagnosed ADHD. If the thought or question crossed my mind it would probably be brought up because my brain was screaming that I had to know now, or I'd forget that I ever had a question. I did finally stop saying things like that or "I have trouble making friends with girls", but that happened after I realized that 1. I'm neurodivergent, and 2. most of my friends, who mostly happened to be guys were also neurodivergent.
LOL As a tall girl when a girl beside me would say "I'm so small" I'd lean on their head and say "yep. Perfect fence posy size" You are welcome to use that. Also when short ppl would say " how's the weather up there?" I'd say "great but looks like your fixing to get rained on" and act like I was going to pour my water on them. Lol
The more of these mindless, vapid, shallow, and conceited girls I see online, the more I love my wife. 🥰
I am like other girls and I claim that proudly. Girls are awesome!
I don't mind being like other people; I just want to be me!
2:21 Just screams "Im NOT like other girls" LMAO! She reached for it too😂
I also feel that when these "girls" are gassing themselves up,it makes them look wayyyy less attractive and gives off the vibe that they think they're better than everyone else🤷🏻♀
Charlotte: Yknow what you can find thrifting?
Me: Self-esteem?
Charlotte: Cowboy Boots.
I was gonna say that next.
I can say with 100% certainty that I am not like the other girls. Of course, being a straight guy kind of gives it away. 😉
I love this comment 😂
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@S Dean I promise I am not, meanwhile I shall provide no evidence to support my claim. Lol.
Lol 😆 🤣