Bridezilla Bachelorette Parties That RUINED The Wedding Day - REACTION

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    Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some bridezillas and their bachelorette stories that got out of hand. These bachelorette parties single-handedly ruined the wedding day. Enjoy :)
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  • Erica H. Ljung
    Erica H. Ljung Il y a mois +790

    My mom told her friends that during her bachelorette party, if there was to be one, all she wanted was a night in, some good food and great company.
    What did the friends do? Kidnapp her and drag her to a "club" (IT was the 90's, they went dancing and there was a bar) and drink all night doing stuff she wasn't into. She had just found out that she was pregnant with me and keeping it on the down low so she couldn't join them/wouldn't and it was a disaster all around. They ended up ditching her in their drunkeness and mom called home to be picked up.
    Sometimes it isn't the bride that is a zilla - it's the friends taking advantage of an event to live out their old glory days.

    • Sarah Prince
      Sarah Prince Il y a 12 jours

      Ok here's the thing, if she never TOLD them she was pregnant then how the fuck was it their fault for taking her clubbing and drinking?? The bride has to meet these people halfway there you know. If she had told them then how would she have known that they wouldn't have changed the plans? That's her OWN fault for not telling them in the first place. Yes, the bachelorette party should be for the bride and to make her happy but it's a party. A celebration. Not much of a bachelorette party if you are staying in doing the same thing you would do on a normal night. You should go do stuff you normally wouldn't do. Not saying you have to have strippers or go to exotic places but you have to step out of your comfort zone a little. How often are you going to have a bachelorette party? Don't stay home for a bachelorette party. That wouldn't be fun and the people would be bored to tears. I went to one and I wanted to leave real fast. Not many people were having fun either so I wasn't the only one. Hell, it was at a restaurant where KIDS and her own family were there. So you can't even classify that as a "bachelorette" party in my opinion. It wasn't until we asked the bride if she wanted to go clubbing after her "party" to have some fun where the party actually turned fun. She had a blast too. So don't be so quick to call them assholes(that's what you are basically doing) for going against her wishes. Once again your mom was partly to blame for being a stick in the mud and for NOT telling them she was pregnant. Sorry for giving the blunt truth here.

    • Sarah Prince
      Sarah Prince Il y a 12 jours

      @Sheryl kimball Bingo. You are supposed to have fun and party. What's the point in having a bachelorette party and NOT party? I honestly would feel bored as fuck and would want to leave. I get her feelings BUT she didn't even tell them that she was pregnant so how the fuck was it their fault to take her drinking when they had no idea that she was pregnant in the first place??? She is also to blame. They can't read her thoughts so she should have TOLD them. I guarantee if they were true friends they would have changed the party to do something else.

    • Sheryl kimball
      Sheryl kimball Il y a 14 jours

      @Nicole Lavigne yes respect brides but why have a Bachelorette party if you're not gonna party. Operative word PARTY.

    • Danielle Douglas
      Danielle Douglas Il y a 18 jours

      I feel so sorry for you mom, that is horrible😱
      If that happens to me I would probably scream the moment I realized where I was, then run away crying and traumatized. I am 100000000000000% not comfortable with stripping, drinking, etc. I didn't even attend high school parties or the after-prom party because I knew there was drinking and who knows what else (cause I didn't attend so idk)

    • Michelle Young
      Michelle Young Il y a mois +12

      Yep. My rule for bachelorette parties is that it's about the bride, and making HER happy, so long as nobody else is made uncomfortable or endangered in the process.
      I'm a Mormon. AND I'm a diabetic. If someone were to force me to drink to celebrate ANYBODY'S marriage, I would cut them off for at least 1 year.
      I used to be a doormat. Now, I'm a big ol' meanie who's not afraid to go nuclear in a relationship, if they try to hurt me. Because I do NOT need to lay back and allow others to hurt me, just to "keep the peace." It may not be loud or violent, but it certainly is not "peace," if I am miserable!

  • Vandaken
    Vandaken Il y a mois +1345

    If I ever get married, I will make sure my bride is not a bridezilla. Wouldn't want her showing up in a Charlotte Dobre video!

    • Kairo 90
      Kairo 90 Il y a 3 jours

      That Would be the Worst...and the Best at the same time. Sucks for you but entertainment for All yall. So...Tage on for the Team...pleeease XD

    • Charlotte Archer
      Charlotte Archer Il y a 23 jours

      Honestly I might be a bridezilla just to end up in one of these 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • Bjula lula
      Bjula lula Il y a 29 jours

      @Vandaken nope

    • Vandaken
      Vandaken Il y a 29 jours

      @Bjula lula You do realize that it was a joke right?

    • Bjula lula
      Bjula lula Il y a 29 jours

      If you worry more about this than about yourself turning into a groomzilla, i think it is save to assume that you will not marry

  • Lisa Henkel
    Lisa Henkel Il y a mois +1012

    I love the fact that June the bridesmaid doesn’t want to be around strippers out of respect for her husband. June is going to be married a lot longer than the bachelorette/bridezilla.

    • Nichol Nixon
      Nichol Nixon Il y a 7 jours

      True

    • Nine Wectawski
      Nine Wectawski Il y a 27 jours +2

      @Nika I was a dancer and I wasn’t okay with my man going to strip clubs, nor do I have the urge to see male strippers. Doesn’t make me “prude”, I know what goes down in those establishments. And it is actually hard to make good money as a professional dancer, when many of your co workers are doing extra curricular activities with the customers, it’s hard to make money the honest way. It was this type of mentality of “why spend $200 on you to dance for me, when so n so will give me a hand job for $60”.
      And with my husband, he knew a lot of the inner things of those clubs so for him to be going to them and lying to me about going to them it showed me what he was actually doing up in them, n it wasn’t just to watch a pretty lady twirl around on a pole if ya get me.

    • ontxtteredwxngs
      ontxtteredwxngs Il y a 27 jours

      Exactly. I have anxiety so the noise and being touched would freak me out.

    • Faith Sears
      Faith Sears Il y a mois

      @Martin Aas Andersen 1

    • Avalon Rhys
      Avalon Rhys Il y a mois

      @Nika definitely, and to say that partying and drinking is a normal bachelorette party just feeds into the stereotype, and bothers the type of people who are not comfortable in those situations. That’s me. I’m way more of a cozy wine and cheese and a movie night than a “partying and drinking heavily” night. It’s totally valid to like different things, Charlotte

  • Aurora Borealis
    Aurora Borealis Il y a mois +437

    As a former bartender, I can tell you that there is nothing worse than having to serve a bunch of loud, obnoxious, entitled women whose sole purpose of the event is to get the bride (and themselves) so shitfaced that they don't remember anything from the night. What is the point? Stop doing it. It's dangerous.

    • KVB Studios
      KVB Studios Il y a mois +1

      I do in-home paint parties a la Bob Ross and the bachelorette/bachelor parties are so much fun! Once spent an hour convincing 10 ladies they would be painting a large male dangling bit, and finally revealed it would be mountains after that first swipe of browns in the middle of the canvas.

    • DrawciaGleam02
      DrawciaGleam02 Il y a mois

      @Loki Cooper
      I feel the same way about that.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +5

      @Mystery LovesCompany Exactly! Here in Norway bachelor/bachelorette parties are at least a week before the wedding. Certaintly not the night before!

    • Teri Steele
      Teri Steele Il y a mois +10

      @Mikaela Williams I think I want that to be a new hobby of mine. I want to be able to say to someone "Sorry, can't do it. It's my DBR day. Oh, that means Drunk Bob Ross painting day".
      This sounds great❤️

  • JamG84
    JamG84 Il y a mois +129

    My MAID OF HONOR talked trash behind my back to the other bridesmaids and called me a “prude” because I didn’t want strippers at my bachelorette. I ended up having to kick her out of my wedding for a combination of things but yeah. Pretty shitty. We had been friends for over 10years.

    • Tyffanee Lavely
      Tyffanee Lavely Il y a 20 jours +1

      Man, that's a bummer. Sorry you had to go through that. I'm sure that still stings. 😔

  • Subhajit Deysarkar
    Subhajit Deysarkar Il y a mois +362

    June needs better friends.
    The OP is so entitled that she can't respect boundaries and moral/ ethical qualms of her friend.

    • Alexis Hill
      Alexis Hill Il y a 18 jours +3

      She even said she would come after the strippers. I don’t get why the bride is so pressed.

    • Esther Khan
      Esther Khan Il y a mois +13

      Demand that I cross my boundaries, and that's our last conversation.

    • Lucy M
      Lucy M Il y a mois +15

      agreed! I'm sure they are no longer friends. As I am sure the OP is no longer married since she clearly likes playing "single" for a night here and there.

    • Jim McKay
      Jim McKay Il y a mois +9

      Exactly.

  • Bailey Ross
    Bailey Ross Il y a mois +501

    I don't get the brides that want to go ham at their bachelorette. I did an escape room, a quiet gin tasting, a lavish dinner, then we drank tea and chatted in our pj's late into the night. I wanted to see my friends that had traveled

    • Erin Mateer
      Erin Mateer Il y a 13 jours

      love that for you. do what makes you happy

    • Tyffanee Lavely
      Tyffanee Lavely Il y a 20 jours

      different people like different things...Not really that hard to understand. Doesn't make u better than them, bcuz u sipped tea and did an escape room. I personally would prefer what u did, but everyone is different.

    • Kimberly Benz
      Kimberly Benz Il y a 25 jours

      That sounds very nice 💛

    • Truth Seeker
      Truth Seeker Il y a mois

      @S RKH That's true. But I'm 19. Not even old enough to drink. So this is a long term plan. And I want to get licensed so that being a bartender is something i can do for a living if I need to. If I need extra money I can work as a bartender to make ends meet.

    • S RKH
      S RKH Il y a mois

      @Truth Seeker You don’t need to get trained to make drinks-just buy a good cocktail book ( I recommend The Little Black Book of Cocktails, for starters), and practice. It’s just measuring and math. Make a pitcher of one cocktail beforehand and let your guests serve themselves.

  • researchotaku
    researchotaku Il y a mois +796

    The irony of the "nonconsensual drinks" situation is that is the end result of the "you must attend my stripper party" situation. Even if you do force this girl to go, she is going to be uncomfortable and she's going, by default, bring the mood down. I bet that "nonconsensual drinks" girl had been badgered into attending that party and then everyone else has the audacity to be *shocked* that she was uncomfortable and wanted to go home. Obviously, invite everyone you want but sometimes people know that they will bring the mood down just by being uncomfortable and will need to opt out to protect your "special day".

    • Surftouka
      Surftouka Il y a jour

      @Bluegirl 27 That's ok & no one should pressure you to drink either. I don't drink either, but I'm ok if others drink, but most of my friends don't drink, the few who do, it's usually 1-2 drinks, never to excess. I never understood the purpose of getting wasted on Saturday night just to spend all day Sunday in hangover mode! I'm a wimp, my first hangover (age 18) was also my last & the original reason for qutting.

    • Surftouka
      Surftouka Il y a 4 jours

      @Skadi I don't drink myself and while I don't mind my friends drinking, I think it would bother me if they drank so much that they got wasted...it's one thing to be a designated driver, but I don't want to have to worry about them and I'm the type that would feel responsible for them. Thankfully, most of my friends don't drink or rarely more than a couple drinks. I think it's great you acknowledge what and why your friend is uncomfortable and don't put her in that position. Whether we don't drink or we're lushes, we should never push our ways on others and respect their choices.

    • Skadi
      Skadi Il y a 4 jours

      @Owatagu Siam maybe she didnt want to leave her friends wasted in a bar without anyone watching their safety. Who else would get the unconscious one home safely, when everyone else didnt have the responsibility to?

    • Skadi
      Skadi Il y a 4 jours +1

      ​@Surftouka Some people just dont like huge parties and being pushed to drink whatever ethanol or methanol comes along. Some people are socially anxcious, uncomfortable around drunk people etc. thats alright. i had a friend, whos father was an alcoholic. She was really super uncomfortable around alcohol. Nobody blamed her, cuz we aint dumb birches.

    • Elmina
      Elmina Il y a 17 jours

      yea like im wondering if the bride even knows that friend very well, i think if my closest friend (we arent even extremely close) had something she wanted to celebrate wit friends (including me) ans she wants to get drunk af, im pretty sure she would ask me if id be comfortable with that and give me an oppurtunity to say that ill probably leave after x amount of hours and stuff. she would ask me personally bc she knows i dont drink and that im uncomfortable around drunk ppl, so how did the bride not think of this...?

  • Kara O'Connor
    Kara O'Connor Il y a mois +195

    Anyone on AITA who says, “He/She needs to drop his/her goody-two-shoes act/attitude!” is automatically the a-hole. Who calls someone that unironically? Who types up a story to post on there and thinks, “Using a phrase that only a villain in a bad 1980s cartoon would use is sure to win people over to my side and make them attack this person for daring to have standards instead of being my puppet!”?

    • Bywater Gal
      Bywater Gal Il y a 17 jours +3

      Yeah, using the phrase "goody-two-shoes" as an adult is a definite red flag. Chances are that's code for "I like to be more extreme (or irresponsible in some cases) than they're comfortable with, so clearly their boundaries are the problem."

    • Katrina Pettirose
      Katrina Pettirose Il y a 26 jours +1

      Thank you 👏

    • Carol R
      Carol R Il y a mois +6

      Hey, June CHB a wild one before she met this guy she married, but in any case, it is HER decision to eschew male strippers. I was a wild one, with a rule with my group of friends that "Whatever happens outside the continental United States, but Florida included, stays outside the continental United States and Florida"....
      However, I immediately become more like June when I am in love in a committed relationship. I would be uncomfortable with strippers, plus I would NOT want to open up THAT can of worms, BC guys going to a reg strip club, with easy sex in your face, bothers me, even though I think I would trust him, or I would not have made the commitment. SO, NO strippers for either of us.

    • The autistic academic
      The autistic academic Il y a mois +2

      Totally agree!

    • Stephanie Kice
      Stephanie Kice Il y a mois +9

      “Goody-two-shoes” does give off the Afterschool Special Villain vibe circa 1982, doesn’t it?

  • thirdsouthobbi
    thirdsouthobbi Il y a mois +196

    The “point” of a bachelorette party isn’t always to get trashed. Some people want to do other things to spend time with their friends before they get married. The idea that you MUST do it is really pretty ridiculous.

    • 🥔just a potato🥔
      🥔just a potato🥔 Il y a 20 jours +2

      @Tyffanee Lavely you feel like you must when peer pressure is a thing and they will get mad at you for saying no.

    • Tyffanee Lavely
      Tyffanee Lavely Il y a 20 jours

      No, not that you must.. but to try and stop the bride to be from getting trashed is the issue. Let her do what she wants. As long as it's not something that can hurt her or others obviously. If they want to get wasted, then by all means, you let them get wasted. The idea of a bachelorette party is to get trashed, and party for one last night with a group of girlfriends. That doesn't mean that's what anyone HAS to do, and no one said you "must."

    • 🥔just a potato🥔
      🥔just a potato🥔 Il y a mois +6

      @Ordinary Girl Trying to be Fabulous she wasn’t trying to stop everybody. She just wanted them to slow down, so the after wouldn’t be as hard and them complaining about a heavy hangover.

    • Ordinary Girl Trying to be Fabulous
      Ordinary Girl Trying to be Fabulous Il y a mois +7

      But she was Gatekeeping everyone elses drinking. I get that she didn't want to drink much. She didn't have to try and stop everyone else. I don't drink, but as long as you're legal age and not driving. Have fun!

  • Denise Nason
    Denise Nason Il y a mois +112

    I don't understand how bridezillas can demand that their wedding party must throw away their values for their wedding. Modest women are expected to wear revealing dresses, non drinkers (sober) people are expected to partake and married women are expected to have men grind on them. Yes, it is your wedding event but this is who I am as a person always. Accept me ....or dont. Dont shame me into getting your way with, I am a bad friend garbage. I wish you and your spouse all the best. I.am glad it is not me.

    • Lisa Spikes
      Lisa Spikes Il y a 22 jours

      Personally, I don’t have a problem with saying no to any situation I’m not comfortable with. I just don’t. But I don’t interfere with other’s decisions either. If everyone else got s***faced, and I didn’t, I’d just leave early. Because, as you know, it’s not much fun being around drunk people if you are not also drunk! They’re adults, they are responsible for themselves.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +2

      Thiiis!
      Also, someone who's content and true to themself wouldn't demand someone else to do something they're not into. I get the vibes that bride/other bridesmaids are ashamed of their drinking and not being able to control themself like the non-drinker/sensible drinker. If there's one thing I've learned it's that people who're insecure in themself try to get you to do what they do, to convince themself what they do isn't harmful/dangerous/wrong.

    • A Bird
      A Bird Il y a mois +10

      No "real friend" would ask me to disqualify who I Am for any event. Big difference between "friend" and "friendly acquaintance". There are always plenty of acquaintances-- those who don't know you on a deeper level- who could ask for these things. You have to decide your worth as well as the value of the relationship. Real friends can and do 'relate' clearly with one another. So determine that first- so no hurt feelings- well, Fewer hurt feelings anyway.

    • Juliet Garmin
      Juliet Garmin Il y a mois +7

      This comment is gold ✨️ 👌

  • DinDeen
    DinDeen Il y a mois +34

    I've personally experienced the last story about "non-consensual drinks".Mine happened at work and I thought it was just a lunch out. Then at the end, someone brought beers for everyone; the beers were already opened, no going back. They kept hounding me as to why I wasn't drinking and wouldn't take no for an answer because "(person) already brought the drinks". So I drank it, and not even ten minutes later I had to go home because my whole mouth flared up with rashes and my neck was starting to itch. I'm allergic to fermented drinks, but somehow they wouldn't accept when I just said "I can't", they thought I was being a killjoy and these were people that I go to work with every day, some were people who were at a higher station than me. It might be funny and overdramatic for people who don't have to deal with that situation, but when you're there that's what it totally is... a non-consensual drink.

    • Nonya B
      Nonya B Il y a 11 jours +2

      @Goku x Sephiroth some people, especially women, young women, have a hard time saying no, being assertive, because they are people pleasers. I wouldn’t say there’s something wrong with them, I’d say they need to learn skills to overcome peer pressure, or other pressure. I think it’s about asking yourself, why do I find it difficult to say no, to stick to my values? Everyone has room to grow, it’s not that there’s something wrong with them. Having a victim mentality, that others did this to me, is a mentality that needs to be changed. Take accountability and say, I chose to drink that, nobody made me do it, I’m unhappy with my choice…is how you grow. But honestly, saying, there is something wrong with me, is also a victim mentality, and talking to yourself like that is toxic.
      Also I don’t think she was asking for your sympathy, just telling her story. I don’t know why you feel the need to come at her with such avarice.

    • Goku x Sephiroth
      Goku x Sephiroth Il y a 11 jours +1

      Um... That really does sound like it's on you. Were there not any other ways you could think to deal with the situation rather than drinking something you were allergic to?
      Like, my friend will literally go into anaphylactic shock and die if she drinks alcohol, and she has never poisoned herself at a work do because people were pressuring her to drink. And they have tried. So... Yeah, I have limited sympathy. If she can deal with it and not lose her job, you're doing something wrong if you have to poison yourself.

  • Lexy Condeelis
    Lexy Condeelis Il y a mois +341

    The level of toxicity some of these people have is scary!! And that poor "June" bridesmaid with the strippers, man... Like if your bride is willing to be THAT selfish with her own friend, what do you think she's going to do with you once you're married? That was a personal boundary she set and that bride was willing to cross it in the name of her own selfishness. So many red flags come out in the wedding planning process.

    • Heather Miller
      Heather Miller Il y a 26 jours

      @Dr. MJ E First line, same for me! Even if it was my own party 😒

    • Lexy Condeelis
      Lexy Condeelis Il y a mois +1

      @Karen Cochran exactly!

    • Karen Cochran
      Karen Cochran Il y a mois +1

      Agree completely! If that bride isn’t willing to respect her friend’s boundaries and compromise about a party, she isn’t ready to be a wife, period!

    • Kynthia Ilie
      Kynthia Ilie Il y a mois

      @Dr. MJ E 🤣🤣🤣

    • Dr. MJ E
      Dr. MJ E Il y a mois +4

      I see strippers, I’m leaving. I’m short so they always want to pick me up and do that pony thing. Never again 😂

  • S
    S Il y a mois +40

    The last girl-i honestly don’t think she’s an a-hole. She reminds me of the reserved, introverted “mom” friend who wants to make sure everyone is alright. I honestly think she meant well, but it backfired because of her. I’m a lot like her so I see myself in her. If I was in the situation, I would have told my friend that i am going to sit this out and let her enjoy her bachelorette party OR I would have went just to show my face, leave early and send a text stating, “Hey, Your party is great. I’m tired, so I’m leaving earl. I had a great time at your party. Enjoy the rest of your night and have fun”.
    I mean, I can totally she where she meant well. You can even tell she meant well because she felt bad after the replies written back to her post.

  • CC
    CC Il y a mois +136

    Charlotte: You get ONE day - the wedding.
    Also Charlotte: This would NEVER fly at my bachelorette party. If the bride wants to throw up all over you, you sit there and take it.
    😂🤣

    • S RKH
      S RKH Il y a mois +6

      But, Charlotte would know better than to insist a bridesmaid attend who didn’t like to go out and party.

  • Chesney White
    Chesney White Il y a mois +105

    I don't think that last person was trying to get everyone to leave the party early. OP saw some of her friends looking a little tired and asked them if they wanted either split off from the party to recover from any alcohol they had, or, as it said IN THE POST, move the party to someone's house since it would likely be a more comfortable environment than loud bars. She wasn't trying to end the party, she was trying to make sure her friends were okay. Either Girl A was being intentionally antagonistic or she misread/misspoke about the situation.

    • Owatagu Siam
      Owatagu Siam Il y a mois +2

      @thy lionheart you bring up a good point that she could have taken them being tired as meaning they couldn’t also be having fun. I didn’t think of that perspective. It read to me initially (and still a bit now if I’m being honest) that she was looking for “an out” to leave early, but I can see it being what you said too. Obviously we weren’t there and so it’s hard to be sure of what happened especially only hearing it from her side. (I keep thinking of the expression “there are always three sides to a story”-person A, person B, and the truth somewhere in the middle.) Someone reminded me on another thread that she said she has social anxiety which to me further supports her hoping to make it socially acceptable/easier for her to leave early if she wasn’t the only one. That said I don’t think she should have been classified as an a**hole-reddit can be harsh-bc I agree that I think her intentions were good whether she was only looking out for others or for them and herself. It doesn’t make her a bad person in my book for recognizing her limitations even if she was just hoping to leave early. In any case I think she and the bride should have communicated beforehand so she could set boundaries and that way the bride could support her if OP had needed to leave early. And the girls who were in it for the drama gossiping to the bride definitely didn’t help anything either.
      Also I just want to say thank you for being kind with your opinion so we could have a good conversation (I hope it comes off good on your end). Being able to talk while having different viewpoints is how we come to understand each other and make everything better. I’m currently working on developing a webpage and maybe a seminar to help people improve their social skills in my program so this is all helpful insight for me to add and to remember myself. Ok thanks for coming to my Ted Talk lol.

    • Owatagu Siam
      Owatagu Siam Il y a mois +1

      @Becca Freeman I didn’t say that at all. You should take a step back and try to look at this objectively instead of emotionally. I am actually the “mom” friend when I go out drinking with mine, I do take care of them not that I should have to defend myself to a stranger. Quite frankly though we don’t have enough information to know if that’s “all she did”. Someone on another thread reminded me she said she has social anxiety which definitely makes a difference, but mostly that there needed to be better communication between her and the bride so that there could be boundaries set. She should have been comfortable leaving early without guilt (which it definitely sounds like is what she wanted imo which is totally fine-she said it wasn’t her thing). She should have been comfortable declining a drink offer. And she also should have been given the boundary that they will be safe. If they are used to this and she isn’t, there is a good chance she is interpreting the amount they are drinking as too much for her and therefore too much for them and given they likely have a much higher tolerance that probably isn’t the case. We don’t have enough information imo to be good judges of this. However, I totally agree with you that the gossiping, catty girls are stuck in a high school mentality. They are the real AH’s bc it should have just been a fun and stress free night for the bride and not a drama fest.

    • thy lionheart
      thy lionheart Il y a mois +20

      @Owatagu Siam I disagree, to me it read like she was genuinely concerned about the comfort of everyone involved and wanted to ensure that everyone had a good time, but that she didn’t understand that even if they were tired, they were still having a good time. Some people (myself included-I’m autistic) are extra sensitive to particular feelings like tiredness, soreness, nausea, and those feelings will supersede any “fun” that is being had, and it’s hard to understand that not everyone operates that way. If I saw that my friends were looking tired at an event, I would 100% check in on them and ask how to accommodate or remedy their exhaustion because in my brain, remedying that means increasing enjoyment, while remaining in that exhaustion means having no enjoyment.
      I’m not saying OP is neurodivergent (tho as a neurodivergent person, I relate to and understand a LOT of what she was saying and how she was saying it) but I do believe she had good intentions.

    • Effy
      Effy Il y a mois +2

      @Becca Freeman alcohol poisoning … what lol, clearly that wasn’t the case relax

    • Becca Freeman
      Becca Freeman Il y a mois +24

      @Owatagu Siam so she should have just not given a crap about her friends and let them attempt getting alcohol poisoning. Good to know you don't care about the health of your friends. fun is more important right. All she did was ask if her friends were ok and if they needed to leave. She wasn't asking so she could leave. And if she did leave early, then everyone of her "friends" would still be gossiping about how much of a fuddy duddy she is. These are no friends of hers. These are girls who are still stuck in their high school mentality. They peaked in high school.

  • AbbyB.
    AbbyB. Il y a mois +369

    I honestly think the last one was a misunderstanding and the situation was handled poorly. A person with social anxiety and the situation she described, would definitely see everything in a completely different way than the rest of the girls saw it. Everyone thinks she's the a-hole, but I totally understand where she's coming from. I don't drink at all and vomiting is one of my phobias and seeing other people doing it is like the worst thing ever, I know it's not the same for this girl, but I get that seeing her friends sick was something she was worried about, and she was thinking that they wouldn't be able to enjoy other activities the next day. She didn't understand that for her friends, being completely trashed was the whole point, because she doesn't like to feel that way and her friends didn't understand that she's not a party girl. Instead of making this clear to each other, she tried to help, but it came out like she wanted to be their mom or something. And then thinking that she was being considerate by letting them rest the next day (I would have done the same) she was accused of avoiding them. Like I said, miscommunication was the problem there, I don't think she was the a-hole.

    • 🥔just a potato🥔
      🥔just a potato🥔 Il y a 15 jours +2

      @Jodie exactly. Some people aren’t grasping that she wasn’t trying to shut the party down but rather move it to a more comfortable place and then continue it. I guess when they get drunk they don’t want somebody to care after them or try to prevent bad things from happening.

    • Jodie
      Jodie Il y a 15 jours +2

      @🥔just a potato🥔 As someone who has social anxiety I totally get it. She was just trying to extend some empathy and care towards other people. Bummer that people don't see that.

    • catsandfriends5918
      catsandfriends5918 Il y a 17 jours +3

      I like your point of view. Looking out for your friends when they're drinking is important too, not to mention making sure they all get home safely. I also have social anxiety and one of my worries/concerns are medical emergencies. You can get too trashed.

    • Tyffanee Lavely
      Tyffanee Lavely Il y a 20 jours +1

      You don't try to get other people to leave the bachelorette party with you, or even ask them if they want to leave. She was being a kill joy. If you have social anxiety, then either don't go, or go and leave when you need to. Don't try to end the night sooner for everyone else. I am a person that gets social anxiety, and I have a panic disorder. Still, I wouldn't do what she was doing. She clearly didn't want to be the only one to leave, bcuz she didn't want to look bad, so she tried to get others to follow. Also, policing everyone about drinks, and saying "non consentual shots' was just ridiculous. If you aren't a heavy drinker and everyone else wants to get trashed, then let them. You don't have to. Being concerned about a friend being sick the following day bcuz of drinking too much is understandable, but it was her bachelorette party, and if she wants to get trashed, she will get trashed. You will just make yourself look like a buzz kill if you try to stop her.

    • Jazmyn Elizabeth
      Jazmyn Elizabeth Il y a 24 jours

      @Jessica Rabbit but there was no way of telling if they were genuinely uncomfortable. Its only the word of somebody who didn't want to be there anyway. It sounded like projection to me especially given the fact that she was wrong and nobody wanted to leave at all.

  • Andrea C
    Andrea C Il y a mois +122

    The last one was a mix of over dramatic ("nonconsentual" drinks was an annoying word, but a lot of the time people buy a round, if you say no, they get butt hurt and will push you into it-seen it enough working at a bar, and dealt with it after shifts). Wanting to make sure the bride is OK is part of the bridal party's job. So I'd say it's 100% within her right to suggest a slow down and water, so she can continue partying without getting sicker. Yes, the party is about the bride, but the bridesmaids and MOH need to make sure she doesn't get alcohol poisoning before her big day...

    • Jazmyn Elizabeth
      Jazmyn Elizabeth Il y a mois +2

      I don't think people have a problem with someone encouraging people to drink water while on a night out. It's the whole tone and delivery, plus the fact that she tried to END the night out early, and the whole tone in her post seemed very obnoxious.

  • dracofirex
    dracofirex Il y a mois +157

    Ugh, the one with the bride getting mad at "June" for not wanting to come to a strip club for the bachelorette is TA. If you're not the type of person who likes those things (or is repulsed by them like me) it's not a good time. It's great that June is so respectful of her husband! The bride does not need to be "supported" at a freaking strip club. She even offered to come enjoy the rest of the evening after the club event, which is perfectly diplomatic. Then the bride posts this on the internet with her feelings openly displayed and is soooo annoyed when June finds out about the post and is upset. I mean wha?

    • DrawciaGleam02
      DrawciaGleam02 Il y a mois +1

      And the husband knows about it too now...this ain't gonna be pretty!

    • dracofirex
      dracofirex Il y a mois +3

      @Indigo Eye I guess her ladies can support her on their shoulders if she's having trouble seeing the stage lol

    • Indigo Eye
      Indigo Eye Il y a mois +10

      I was like 'what kind of support does she need in a strip club, exactly?' when I heard that part. I was just so speachless at this entire post.

    • Carol R
      Carol R Il y a mois +5

      I may have been wild when single but once I commit to a man, I can't imagine going to a strip club. Also, I don't want to open THAT can of worms, where technically he SB allowed to go to a strip club, and we know how bad they try to get the guys to do stuff with them. NO strip clubs for anyone! If you want to go, then we are on a break, Ross', not Rachel's, definition of a break (from Friends if ppl DK that show-SHE said she wanted a break, meaning, some time apart, but he got very drunk and did the "hot girl in the copy place" all the guys lusted after, , and got caught by her.)

    • Vio
      Vio Il y a mois +11

      Holding herself to the same standards she expects of her man, being considerate... what is this, hasn't she heard of "equality"? :p

  • thy lionheart
    thy lionheart Il y a mois +80

    Honestly I totally understand the “negative” bridesmaid. I think it would’ve been best for her not to go to the bachelorette party bc it’s clear that this type of party isn’t one that she can enjoy without becoming concerned about various things she perceives as safety or well-being issues. I know that if I were to go to a party like this, I would only be concerned about my friends drinking enough water or not taking drinks from random guys or not getting lost, etc, bc I have a lot of anxiety and those types of parties are not fun to me at all and neither is getting trashed or watching my friends get trashed. It’s extremely anxiety-inducing, which is why I don’t go to parties like this.
    I really do think that OP just didn’t know that everything was “normal” because she’s stated that she doesn’t drink publicly, and she thought she was helping people prolong their enjoyment by trying to minimize “painful” or “unenjoyable” things like tiredness, soreness, hangovers, and vomiting. All of those things negate any enjoyment I personally get out of parties and I honestly have a very hard time understanding how people can have fun right after they’ve thrown up, but again, that’s why I don’t attend events like this, and why OP shouldn’t have attended this one.

    • Carol R
      Carol R Il y a mois +6

      I agree, some of us mature faster, mentally and heck, physically. Plus, I was roofied at 18, so I would be worried. The age for drinking then was 18 in New York, and we got into bars, and most clubs, at 15, 16-my first bar experience was at 15 at a college dive bar by Brooklyn College, and my GFs and I were prime meat when I hadn't even kissed a boy yet (I made up for lost time after I started working on Wall St-f-in INSANE in the 80s, just like you see in movies, free coke they gave the brokers and even us "reg folks", so we worked harder, faster and stayed longer) Obviously, this WAS a long time ago, when dinosaurs roamed the streets of Manhattan, and sometimes sank the Staten Island Ferry after eating all the Staten Islanders.

  • Mark Harris
    Mark Harris Il y a mois +121

    If a friend asked me to go to a strip joint for his stag party I’d politely decline the invitation. I’d be extremely uncomfortable, as much for the reason the strippers are often there as much for the nudity.

    • pogpogpurin
      pogpogpurin Il y a mois +11

      @Danielle King agreed!! Everyone has different likes, dislikes, things they're OK with and boundaries.
      Forcing a friend to come with you even if u make them uncomfortable is not even something that crosses my mind as a friend. Tf

    • Danielle King
      Danielle King Il y a mois +19

      And your friend should not put up a fuss about it and accept it! I can't believe that lady saying her friend wasn't "supporting her" just because she wouldn't go to something like THAT. wtf

  • ft.Jack&Jimmy
    ft.Jack&Jimmy Il y a mois +33

    honestly, I sympathized with the girl in the last scenario but her execution was poor. I am also an introverted and not a drunken party animal at the drop of a dime kinda person either. i prefer fun activities instead of drinking for no reason. But I have been accidentally agreed upon or dragged into such situations where i just have to play along and not risk ruining things for everyone, usually they even guilt me into "get out of your comfort zone" too. However, if they are people you are close to or care about, it's what you'd do for a short period. Then you could invite them to do something that you want to do and it's totally different from just drinking and drinking and see if they are down to go along or ruin things for you. If they do ruin things for you, then go ahead and dump that one dimensional excuse of a human being.

    • Athena Rocks
      Athena Rocks Il y a mois +5

      I’m the same way, but tbh she. She said “non-consensual drinks” it made me kinda mad. She didn’t have to drink it and the other girl is free to make her own choices. At the end of the day she’s an adult and she has to have her own backbone. It felt like she was making herself out to be more of a victim than she was.

  • talon_craft
    talon_craft Il y a mois +183

    They discussed on Drag race how Bachelorette parties were known to interrupt shows and even get handsy. Hell to the no!

    • Edana Gorham
      Edana Gorham Il y a mois +13

      I think it happens in a lot of LGBTQ+ spaces. Gay bars can be magnets for bachelorettes and not all of them remain respectful. It’s not a theme night for straights! Its weird, cause it pulls gayness in to this “naughty bachelorette” category when those people are just living their lives, having a drink. Ironically I think a lot of bachelorettes head for gay bars because they can dress up and not get hounded by men but unfortunately some just aren’t respectful that it’s not their space.

    • Jeffrey Clinard
      Jeffrey Clinard Il y a mois +9

      Interrupting a show is rude. Getting handsy crosses the line. Look but don't touch. Goes for men at strip clubs as well. You can window shop, but putting your hands on the merchandise is off limits.

    • Miss Meagan
      Miss Meagan Il y a mois +3

      Trixie and Katya talked about this on Unhhhhh too lol

    • Caitlin Funk
      Caitlin Funk Il y a mois +1

      @Katharina Arnoldi LOL YESSSS!!!! 😂😂 I hope Jimbo throws deli meat at bachlorette parties.

    • Lauren Jean
      Lauren Jean Il y a mois +15

      That doesn’t surprise me in the least. I was planning a bachelorette party and we were gonna take the bride to a drag show but ultimately decided not to after the behavior of several guests in past at an all male review. I was mortified enough to be at that show, I ONLY went to be supportive, and then a few “ladies” were out right grabbing these men. I felt so gross seeing it. They were like animals.

  • Mrs. G.
    Mrs. G. Il y a mois +220

    I never understood the idea of the raunchy drunken Bachelorette party. My husband and I had a joint party the night before our wedding. All our young wedding guests and bridal party came over and we had a great game night with everyone. So much fun, an amazing memory of getting to hang out with everyone before our big day.

    • Kiwi K
      Kiwi K Il y a 10 jours

      @Surftouka oh yeah, for sure, stay faaaar away from those people!!

    • Surftouka
      Surftouka Il y a 10 jours +1

      @Kiwi K Wow, that didn't even cross my mind, but you have a point. I had reasons for not wanting to get back into that family again, it wasn't just about my ex and his dirty deeds.

    • Kiwi K
      Kiwi K Il y a 11 jours +1

      @Surftouka it’s possible the cousin lied to you to get in your pants!! People do that!!

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +1

      My cousin and her husband did something similiar. But first it was seperate, my cousin was woken up to have a breakfast picnic in a park, then headed to a pedicure appointment, and lastly we all went to a pole dance studio that was booked. After that, bachelorette and bachelor parties joined at their home and we had a BBQ party.
      As an introvert diagnosed with social anxiety, no one pressured me to drink and I had just as much fun. My anxiety wasn't bad that day either because my cousin, her husband and their friends are lovely and understanding people.

    • Surftouka
      Surftouka Il y a mois

      @Kiwi K Oh my! very much the same! After I kicked my ex to the curb, wasting 17 years on him, cheating wasn't the only reason it was just the final straw. I found out from his cousin after we separated that he'd been cheating since the beginning. Then his cousin was hitting on me & I'm like no thanks not joining this family again! I realized why though-my ex's family even told him he ruined a good thing.

  • Linda Ward
    Linda Ward Il y a mois +23

    as a vintage woman, I can't help but notice how insane weddings have become. in my day no parties were expected, just appreciated if they happened. a bridal shower was given by friends usually and still greatly appreciated instead of expected. for working families, it was common to have the shower in someone's living room. the expense and planning of weddings have just grown & grown over the years. bachelorette parties weren't even a thing for many years yet that one gal wants two??? so many rules and regulations! just have a girl's night out, geez. it's weird to me to start a marriage with a giant price tag and out of their mind brides. I'd rather use the $$$ on a down payment to a house instead of being a star for the day, that's hardly what marriage is about. I get wanting it pretty and all but it can be done w/o alienating everyone around you. ☮️

    • the Tan Van
      the Tan Van Il y a mois +1

      @Linda Ward yes! These days if someone is speaking truth, they're treated like they're crazy......I'm glad I wasn't raised to be greedy or money focused (and I wasn't raised by ozzy and Harriet, believe me).....still, this sort of behavior is embarrassing to watch......

    • Linda Ward
      Linda Ward Il y a mois +2

      @the Tan Van i have noticed how the definition of spoiled has morphed...it used to be an insult but now people are actually proud of the label. of all the things i considered would change in my lifetime I never expected this kind ...like "alternative facts" - that one was a hoot!

    • the Tan Van
      the Tan Van Il y a mois +2

      I would be mortified to act so spoiled and entitled....these are the girls who screamed and cried and got what they wanted from their parents/grandparents their whole life, and now they think that's how they treat people to get what they want....if I'd acted like that as a kid OR adult, my family would've put me in my place real quick....SPOILED isn't a compliment, people....

    • Linda Ward
      Linda Ward Il y a mois +1

      @Rebecca Dawson thanks. I struggled to define myself but "vintage woman" seemed to hit the spot for me. ☮️

    • Rebecca Dawson
      Rebecca Dawson Il y a mois +1

      I am totally in love with the phrase "vintage woman ", and Bachelorette parties are supposed to be a reflection of the relationship between the bridal party. The best one I ever went to was a lovely meal followed by a monopoly tournament with spa treatments.

  • Lady Marmalade
    Lady Marmalade Il y a mois +38

    "Please stop sending me harassing messages and calling me names" she says after specifically asking people to tell her whether or not she's being an a-hole. This is one of those people who only posted because she thought everyone was going to take her side.

  • claire 🌸🌸
    claire 🌸🌸 Il y a mois +69

    The str!pper one when Charlotte read the edit I got stuck on "her husband called me and said some really rude things."
    Frankly, what husband WOULDN'T call the person harassing his wife?? That's not rude, that's just him being protective/supportive and he has a right to be angry for her.

    • Carol R
      Carol R Il y a mois +3

      My ex-H, a great guy, has done that. I was an animal rescuer working a LOT at the shelter AND fostering, working with someone named Karen who couldn't say no to dogs from gassing shelter stated (south, like Georgia), where I kept taking animals from her filthy cottage since I had the big, clean house with no human kids, big yard, etc. She bravely helped me rescue Lucy, the Yellow Lab/Pit in my photo, about-to-be a bait dog. I was in the hospital after a seizure, and she called complaining that because I was not helping her, a dog died, hit by a car BC she had too many to care for. He got on the phone at the hospital and said don't call again. She did, he changed the tel #.
      She was eventually arrested for hoarding and it was all over our news, with her coming out in handcuffs.The other dog, Monkey, was on the front page of the newspaper, but he looked wacko so we decided to take him since he needed us. Sure enough, Mental Monkey had a LOT of issues due to witnessing the gassing (I couldn't use my oven when we had stainless steel appliances put in)...then he gets shlepped up her to her feces-ridden house, where who knows what happened to a mentally fragile dog.
      Karen DID mean well BUT she had too many issues, so my then-H reminded me do NOT give her your tel #.

  • N. Ross
    N. Ross Il y a mois +273

    I find these hilarious. When my husband and I got married, we didn't even have a wedding party. No bridal shower. No bachelor or bachelorette party. We wanted our day to be about us, but simple and laid back. My parents graciously offered to pay for my dress, which cost $100, and I was over the moon with it. We got married at a park. It was lovely and had a party afterwards. Best day ever and even better, no debt.

    • Chaotic Evil
      Chaotic Evil Il y a mois +1

      We did the same thing, no bachelorette party or bridal shower. Quick ceremony in my parents living room with friends and family followed by food and games. Whole thing with decorations, food, my dress, and resizing rings cost $800. Intimate is the way to go.

    • George A. B. Moore
      George A. B. Moore Il y a mois +1

      One of my sisters got married in our grandma’s back yard, by our Bishop, and had a potluck dinner. There was dancing, laughter, and we all had a great time! I’ve been to a few weddings in my time, and I never had as much fun at one of those ridiculous, super expensive weddings. Plus… why would you wanna start out your marriage in debt? If you’re gonna start out in debt, it should be because you bought a house, not because you bought out a huge wedding venue.
      I’m also aro, so I just don’t understand weddings at all. My viewpoint may be tainted.

    • Duckeh
      Duckeh Il y a mois +1

      similar thing here. i had no bachelorette party, no moh or bridesmaids (got married at courthouse with parents and siblings as witness). i didn't want reception but husband and "everyone else" did so we had it week later. bridal showers and rehearsal dinners are not thing here.
      husband did have bachelor party (he has friends, i don't). they went to secluded cottage by the lake drinking, bbqing and fishing. his best friend was "best man" aka the host at reception.
      I have gotten one invite to bachelorette party of schooltime bff. didn't go. was bit clashing with schedule, had not talked with her in few years and didn't know anyone else

    • Mystery LovesCompany
      Mystery LovesCompany Il y a mois +1

      I loved my Hens Party (my girls made it a whole weekend affair), but my husband chose not to have a Stag. I triple-checked that was really what he wanted, but opted not to pressure him over it; he's a major introvert, & I guess that's just what he decided made him feel comfortable.
      Pre-wedding parties are as personal a thing as the wedding itself.
      Our wedding was pretty extra, but that's because we're goths so we're very aesthetic ppl. We only had 75 guests including ourselves & the celebrant, tho.

    • Sarah Obah
      Sarah Obah Il y a mois +1

      @Jewels I wasn't born yet but I still get the stories, "remember when this happened? ... That's right it was at so and so's wedding! What a great weekend" as far as I know, the celebrant stayed for a bit of the reception too.

  • Lauuu__ri
    Lauuu__ri Il y a mois +245

    I normally agree with you but the girl who was asking if anyone else wanted to go home that's absolutely okay. If some people seem off or sick or want to leave, it's okay to ask if they want to go home. Also getting trashed isn't the only objective for a bachelorette party. Those are my only two things.

    • Lauuu__ri
      Lauuu__ri Il y a 20 jours

      @Tyffanee Lavely also one more thing just not everyone is confident enough to outright say they want to leave and go home so just because you personally believe that it's as simple as packing up and leaving doesn't mean it works that way for everyone else. Some people want to leave but just don't want to be the first one to go. I know plenty of people have been relieved when someone pipes up and is like hey is anyone else tired? No one wants to be the first one to bail on the party. It is what it is. I really hope you heal from your personal trauma against asking questions. Didn't realize asking someone if they were ok was something to cause a whole problem in the friend group for, but then again we all choose to treat our friends differently and I guess you agree with the other group which is alright. We are all entitled to our own opinion. Wishing you the best.

    • Lauuu__ri
      Lauuu__ri Il y a 20 jours

      @Tyffanee Lavely It's ok to see someone looking not right and ask if they want to go home, that's perfectly acceptable behavior. They can say no and soldier on, but you can't be upset at someone for asking a question. Sorry, you just can't. Sounds like you dealt with a similar situation personally, but it's not normal to flip the fuck out at someone if they ask one question. If they ask repeatedly and are annoying, there is a different story. The way this was stated and worded in the original post was she was not being pushy but like always there is two sides and then the truth. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I hope you get over the whole people aren't allowed to ask questions thing

    • Tyffanee Lavely
      Tyffanee Lavely Il y a 20 jours

      It's not okay to ask people if they want to go home, just bcuz u want to go home. If they wanted to go home, they would have said so. There was no indication that they wanted to go home. She just didn't want to be the one that went home alone. She wanted to feel better about herself leaving by getting other's to leave too. People are going to seem sick at a bachelorette party when there is alcohol involved. The way she went about all of it, wasn't cool. Getting trashed at THIS bachelorette party was the objective, and it is the objective for most of them. Sure if people want to have a diff type of party, that's' cool. However, most people want to have one last crazy, drunken night, before they get married. I wouldn't personally, but that's just how it is for most. You don't police your friend when she is drinking at her bachelorette party. If you want to be the more sober one, that helps people from hurting themselves, then sure go ahead, abut don't spoil everyone's fun, and don't try to get people to leave with you. No one was talking about leaving. Which is why they said something to the bride about it. She knew what the night was going to be about. I know anxiety all too well. I am sure it was an uncomfortable time for her. She could have chosen to not go, or to leave early by herself.

    • Jen321able
      Jen321able Il y a 26 jours +2

      Same. I thought she was trying to be a good friend. How often do people get wasted and regret how much they had the next day? She was trying to look out for them. I get being picky about the shots being annoying but other than that she really wasn't bad.

    • Lauuu__ri
      Lauuu__ri Il y a mois

      @indy jespersen Exactly, this seems like a problematic group of women and I hope that the poster found friends that understand her better and are less toxic.

  • Justine P
    Justine P Il y a mois +648

    For the last one, I agree she was being kinda dramatic but I also kinda empathize with her. I’m wondering why there was no prior discussion to what the party would be like and if she was up to it so that both she and the bride could decide if she wanted to be there. Like instead of forcing your friend who has no party-stamina to come along and risk ruining the night, just let her stay home and join you guys for breakfast. I also thought them gossiping about her was kinda Mean Girl-y. They’re adults. They could have told her to her face so she knew she wasn’t doing well.

    • Ami Walker
      Ami Walker Il y a 23 jours

      @Dawn Chesbro judging me based on 500 words or less huh? What because I think people should be intelligent enough to puck and choose what parties they go to based on their own opinion of a good time. For instance, I don't go to car shows with my dad (it bores me) I also don't go to festivals with my weekend warrior friends (I can't keep up and I'd hate it and wreck the vibe) I do accept dinner and drink invites, cocktail parties and the odd pamper spa day. I don't judge my friends because their idea of fun isn't the same as mine. But as you can see my names Ami, not Karen

    • Ami Walker
      Ami Walker Il y a 23 jours

      @Gaia Seraphina I dunno....why should I (37) mark your words?? I thought what you said was condescending and rude....so I repeated it back. Glad to see you also thought it was rude tho.

    • Gaia Seraphina
      Gaia Seraphina Il y a 23 jours

      @Ami Walker
      Why should I ( 42 by the way ) mark your words? 🤔

    • Ami Walker
      Ami Walker Il y a 23 jours

      @Gaia Seraphina but she says she's a party girl.... I have friends who'd think a quiet afternoon tea amd a museum was a far better bachelorette than a dance and drink party. Having said that, all of those are intelligent enough not to go to a week long party with my friends who are party girls. Its called knowing your limits and making an informed decision. Mark my words.

  • Laqueta Hodge-Momon
    Laqueta Hodge-Momon Il y a mois +81

    I did Korean BBQ for my bachelorette & reading these stories makes me sooo happy I'm a boring person lol

    • Laqueta Hodge-Momon
      Laqueta Hodge-Momon Il y a mois

      @M Simms Much of our bridal party were underage so we knew either way going out drinking wouldn't have been fair to most of them. My husband is like a big kid so D&B is a place he loves to take the kids to.

    • Laqueta Hodge-Momon
      Laqueta Hodge-Momon Il y a mois

      @April Taylor Honestly, I wish I could crochet lol My sister called us boring bc whenever we go to Vegas (which is a lot), we go to some of the same spots, but it's just what we like lol

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois

      Omg Korean BBQ, yeeees! Sounds like an awsome bachelorette! 🤩

    • M Simms
      M Simms Il y a mois

      @April Taylor Thank you and you're absolutely right! i couldn't have asked for anything "better" and wouldn't have wanted anything more lavish and crazy. It's one of my most cherished memories and was a completely amazing time ❤️

    • M Simms
      M Simms Il y a mois +1

      @Laqueta Hodge-Momon That sounds awesome! My husband and his nephew love going there, it's sort of their thing so i could totally see them doing something like that. i love that your guy decided to do something fun and inclusive ❤️

  • Sarah G
    Sarah G Il y a mois +533

    June is a good wife... Sorry friend, you're not more important!!

    • Sara Kielinen
      Sara Kielinen Il y a mois +3

      Her husband aside, I completely respect that June simply wasn't comfortable. That's reason enough. That's okay!

    • Saporatus
      Saporatus Il y a mois +13

      You could tell from the "goody two shoes" line that it isn't about support but she wants her to go along because she feels less than June with liking the stripper idea.
      So June isn't just a good wife but she's also a good friend, not imposing her views but being happy that her friend will like her bachelorette party.

    • Ingrid Gil
      Ingrid Gil Il y a mois +10

      My sister has taught me to learn how to take "No" for an answer. It wasn't easy at first because I wanted to go do fun stuff with her. I later realized she is an introvert, and I am an ambivert more towards the extrovert tendency. We have agreed that if I ever invite her someplace I will only ask once, and it is to extend a courtesy to her so she knows she is being invited. There have been a few times she asked me why I don't do fun stuff with her, and I have to remind her that I try to include her, but she doesn't ever want to go anywhere when I invite her. How does my experience relate to this? The Bride should have been respectful of June's wishes, and go have a good time! June said she would have showed up after the "entertainment " left.

    • Surftouka
      Surftouka Il y a mois +21

      Do unto others as you would them unto you. I think June was clear and sensible... she didn't want to do something she knew she wouldn't want her husband doing. I think the bride is silly to lose a good friend like June who could've lied & said she couldn't go, instead she not only gave her an honest explanation but she offered to go AFTER the whole stripper thing.

  • Laura Agnoletti
    Laura Agnoletti Il y a mois +41

    I'm so happy that in Italy there's no such things as bridemaids, groomsmen or bridal party. It sounds terribly stressfull 😵‍💫

    • Lucy M
      Lucy M Il y a mois +4

      It doesn't have to be. We rented a pool and got pizza and watched old John Hughes movies. My husband went bowling and played pool. Both events were light hearted, not expensive, and no stress. No strippers, no gifts expected, just fun with those we are close to. Not everyone makes it this major thing, only the really entitled selfish people who usually end up divorced but not before complicating everything by having kids to fight over.

  • mckinly thompson
    mckinly thompson Il y a mois +69

    I really feel for the last girl. I feel like she was probably pressured to go even when she told them she didn't do that stuff normally!! I hate to burst your bubble but not everyone likes to stay out and party even if it is for a bachelorette party!!

    • Owatagu Siam
      Owatagu Siam Il y a mois +1

      @pogpogpurin I agree with u that they should have communicated better on both sides. The lady who posted needed to at least talk with the bride beforehand who she must’ve been close with given she was in the bridal party and said she was maybe going to leave early bc it wasn’t her thing but wanted to celebrate her. That way the bride could’ve given her the out to make it socially easier for her given her social anxiety (that I didn’t remember in another comment) for her to leave without feeling guilty. They all needed to be more mature and communicative.

    • Stefanie Schweigler
      Stefanie Schweigler Il y a mois +5

      @Royal Rose the wedding is a once in a lifetime experience. You can go and get trashed with your friends any other day of your life, too. Minus the tacky outfits, which is definitely a plus. Maybe you should grow up?

    • pogpogpurin
      pogpogpurin Il y a mois +8

      @Royal Rose not everyone is an extrovert, not everyone has the same boundaries or needs. What ruined the night was a lack of communication between all party's and dragging a friend out who doesn't even like doing those things. Recipie for disaster.
      What ruined the night as u say, was the mean girl mentality of bitching about someone they clearly didn't like because real friends understand we are all different and try to accommodate eachother or let others know when to stop doing something. If what truly bothered them was the girl checking if others were OK, and making sure that nothing bad would happen to their friends with the drinks (like drinking too much where something bad could happen to them or forcing/tempting a friend who was sober to drink because they keep buying her drinks) then they could have just told her to stop.
      Real adults talk shit out, it wouldn't be "ruined" if they actually tried

  • Blu Daizee
    Blu Daizee Il y a mois +25

    What if June has had something traumatic happen in her past? She could be an abuse survivor. It's understandable if she'd want to keep that private. She doesn't owe any more explanation than she already gave. Also, it's nice that she doesn't want to be hypocritical in her marriage. That mutual respect June has with her husband sounds like something bridezilla could take a few notes from.

  •  LOUISE JOHNSON
    LOUISE JOHNSON Il y a mois +50

    Many moons ago my friend had her stag at a clubs ladies night. It was fun, in a tacky way. However, I'll never forget the look of horror on the face of a woman who had the misfortune to have a deranged stripper stir her drink with his very large dong. She took the drink to the bar and demanded a new one. It was disgusting.

    •  LOUISE JOHNSON
      LOUISE JOHNSON Il y a mois +2

      @Loki Cooper I don't know if he thought it sexy, or funny, but I'm sure he never imagined that we'd all find him, and his little sidekick to be gross.

    • Loki Cooper
      Loki Cooper Il y a mois +3

      Holy shit! Ewwwww! That is nasty! I'm not sure I would have thought to go demand a new one, but I sure as hell wouldn't be drinking that one! I guess someone would think that's sexy? Maybe? But seriously, WTF?

    • Crazy Cat Queen
      Crazy Cat Queen Il y a mois +4

      This falls under the "I don't know where that thing has been"....

    • nine
      nine Il y a mois +2

      That's actually kinda gross

    • meisjeViv
      meisjeViv Il y a mois +6

      🤣Wtf! Gross! And also kinda hilarious! And mostly, wtf 😬

  • Alexei R
    Alexei R Il y a mois +192

    Re: Lucy the round 2 bachelorette party, if I was in her shoes I can see wanting a reunion of some kind (once everything was safe) so we could all celebrate together since so many people couldn’t come, but she’s clearly just in it for the party. You don’t need another massive bash, and it’s really inconsiderate to demand that of people especially in light of the crashing economy. Reunion? Yes. Party? No, stop being greedy.

    • Russ Keith
      Russ Keith Il y a mois +2

      I'm kinda concerned that she wants to revisit the last time before she was married. Makes me wonder if those 2 years have been going well.

    • Arlene Clark
      Arlene Clark Il y a mois

      Agreed one commentator said OP should have suggested that, a reunion not a party..umm she did suggest that.

    • Bunny Boo
      Bunny Boo Il y a mois +1

      @Samuel Woods Ah it all on the difference of using certain words

    • Samuel Woods
      Samuel Woods Il y a mois +1

      @Bunny Boo because she specifically wanted a 2nd bachelorette/Hen which the cost of the woman getting married is traditionally divided up among the women that attend.... if she said she wanted a holiday or trip with everyone who was invited to the bachelorette then it would be expected she would pay for herself.

    • Marsha Wargo
      Marsha Wargo Il y a mois +9

      @Bunny Boo It's implied, by what she's named it. Bachelorette party being paid for by the bridal party. If she is insinuating every girl pay for themselves she would have called it a vacation. Even if she called it an Anniversary Trip it would have suggested She's Paying for everyone.

  • Masta Vo
    Masta Vo Il y a mois +8

    Good on June for standing her ground rather than getting roped into something uncomfortable. Hopefully her hubby cheered her up with a routine of his own :)

  • delilahbelle2125
    delilahbelle2125 Il y a mois +11

    I was miserable at my cousin's bachelorette. It was a beach weekend, which I was excited about and wanted to attend to support my cousin and spend time with her and family (as I live in a different state than everyone else). The beach stuff was fun and relaxed, but then they wanted to have a bar hopping night, and it's just really not my scene. But it wasn't my bachelorette, so I sucked it up and went to the bars...where I was consistently losing the other party goers, getting groped by drunk dudes, and unable to hear due to overly loud music. It was really hard for me, but I kept trying (I didn't want to be a wet blanket)...until this one guy would not leave me alone. I finally had enough and gave him such an attitude and death glare (maybe I said something snarky too, can't really remember) he backed off and sulked away. I decided I'd had enough, called our agreed upon ride to leave, and told the others I was leaving but to have fun. The next morning some of the party were giving me a hard time because I'd apparently "scared" the 6'2, 250lb dude who I gave attitude to (I'm 5'2 and around 145lb), and I responded that my body isn't up for grabs just because I'm in a bar. He didn't just try once to put hands on me and despite my consistently letting him know I wasn't comfortable, he persisted, and I finally had enough. I wasn't going to apologize for that.

  • Heather Smith
    Heather Smith Il y a mois +18

    I guess I'm just old, but back in the day the bride had a shower, which was a really nice afternoon tea, where often cute games were played (like the old Tupperware games)and the bride put all the bows from the gifts onto her head (or made a hat out of them?). It was a pleasant event with the bride receiving a ton of napkins, tea towels and kitchen utensils! :)

    • Kristie Corson
      Kristie Corson Il y a mois +2

      That's still a thing. But the bachelorette party is a whole different thing.

  • Daphne
    Daphne Il y a mois +24

    I went to the bachelorette party of two of my dearest friends when they got married. For one we went to the Hamam (Turkish bathhouse) and had massages, lounged in the hot room and has lots of fruit and mint tea 😌 So relaxing. The other we went to do an escape room which was so much fun too and a tapas dinner after ☺️ Strippers for your bachelorette party is just so tacky and yes it would make me super uncomfortable too 😑

    • Loki Cooper
      Loki Cooper Il y a mois

      Both of those sound super awesome! I'd have loved to go to those "parties!"

  • AerynK Designs
    AerynK Designs Il y a mois +29

    See, the thing is, I'm absolutely the killjoy. Anyone that is friends with me knows this and I'm very open about what I should and should not participate in. Do not invite me to a club. Do not invite me to a bachelorette party. Do not invite me to a strip club. IF I were at this party, which I wouldn't be because my friends would be kind enough to say "we know you don't want to come, no pressure to say no" I *would* be checking in with anyone that is unwell, or hanging with them if they wanted that. I *would* be saying no to any and all alcohol (a true friend would not offer it to me anyway), but I WOULD NOT be policing what others do as long as they were ultimately safe. Walking someone home, making sure they got back to their room, making sure they didn't fall or get taken advantage of by someone, etc. If you are a consenting adult it's absolutely not my place to enforce my own personal issues onto you and your fun time. I, and my husband, are*awful* at weddings, parties, anything where it's loud and people are drinking. When we attend, we leave early once the drinking starts if we can. Real friends know this will happen and no feelings get hurt. "Support" does not come from ruining someone's good time with your own issues. If you cannot "keep up" with the activities for whatever reason, excuse yourself, and plan an activity you can all enjoy together because if you're already friends you already have *something* in common to share.

  • Synthia McBride
    Synthia McBride Il y a mois +14

    Why does the bride think that June should check with her husband before giving a definitive no? June is a grown-a$$ed woman who doesn't need anybody's "okay" before stating her position based on her morals.

  • Tina Mauldin
    Tina Mauldin Il y a mois +20

    I like this bridesmaid for standing by her principles, regardless of the peer pressure. She is not a follower, and that's a good thing..No judging the bride, but don't judge the bridesmaid either.

  • Iván Barbeitos
    Iván Barbeitos Il y a mois +8

    I've never understood the concept of the bachelor/bachelorette parties. If you are so fond of partying, and you apparently will miss them so much that you need to throw one last "wildest ever" party in which you could potentially end up being unfaithful to your future spouse, maybe you shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

  • Ambi Cahira
    Ambi Cahira Il y a mois +23

    The stripper one, I hope she has an introvert friend that forces her to sit in silence at the library for 5 hours as a sign of supporting their friend and if she doesn't feel comfortable with sitting in silence for 5 hours then she's a bad friend 🙄

    • pogpogpurin
      pogpogpurin Il y a mois +6

      FR
      It's like everyone forces introverts to always be uncomfortable and that extrovertedness is the "norm"
      Its kind of gross

  • LGB LGB
    LGB LGB Il y a mois +83

    As soon as Charlotte started with the “Bridezilla in aisle 12…” my dogs started barking.

    • Sam G
      Sam G Il y a mois +3

      Guess your dogs disapprove of bridezillas lol

    • 𝓥𝓜𝓲𝓷 ⁷
      𝓥𝓜𝓲𝓷 ⁷ Il y a mois +1

      _🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣_

    • Augiegrl12
      Augiegrl12 Il y a mois +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • Saidi Louise
    Saidi Louise Il y a mois +20

    I one time went to the beginning of a Bachelorette party at the home of a friend. When the party called on taxis to take everyone out to go clubbing, I excused myself. Not for any other reason than because I was BROKE. I wasn't asked to be the designated babysitter and I didn't want to borrow money just to drink. I excused myself so I wouldn't be the A-hole.

    • Lucieff
      Lucieff Il y a mois +1

      @Teresa Howick I'm sorry you had to go through that... If it hadn't happened already, I would have told you that it is absolutely okay to say no, even if the party is for you... Actually... Especially when the party is for you!

    • Saidi Louise
      Saidi Louise Il y a mois +3

      @Teresa Howick yeah. My Bachelorette "party' was a friend, a cousin and myself at the beach for the night. Ordered takeout and hung out at the water. Quiet. Perfection.

    • Teresa Howick
      Teresa Howick Il y a mois +3

      This sounds like mine. I’M the one who didn’t want that and it was MY bachelorette. So I was forced to go. I hated it. It’s not my thing to bar hop.

  • LeeMary Coziar
    LeeMary Coziar Il y a mois +10

    So being able to redo life events is a thing? I want the world to throw me a baby shower, she came 2 months early so I never go one, I want tequila and strippers- let’s ignore the fact she’s almost old enough to drink the tequila with me…

    • Lucieff
      Lucieff Il y a mois

      Hey, I think you absolutely should... But wait till she can join you 😝 It's like if you get married but you're broke AF, so you don't have a party... But then, ten years later you have money and regret that you never got your day... Then I actually think it would be okay to have a party... As long as you don't take it too seriously 😜

  • Hilary Gosnell
    Hilary Gosnell Il y a mois +10

    Did I know that my friend was going to horribly ill from drinking mimosas (in a gigantic sippy cup btw) for LITERALLY OVER 20 HOURS on our last vacation together? Yes. Did I tell her to switch drinks to try to protect her? Yes, but only once. After that we all just put our hands up and said "you go girl".
    She got vitamin C poisoning and spent the next day puking and pooping her brains out. She knew EXACTLY who's fault it was. No harm to our friendship, she did it "her way", and now we all get to laugh about it on our next vacation instead of losing a friend!

  • KC M
    KC M Il y a mois +8

    So gonna give my two cents in on the last story, I both agree and disagree. Yes she was the A-hole for projecting her feelings on the other girls, but her not being able to drink a specific drink cause it makes her sick is kinda a valid concern. Also, a bunch of drunk girls at a bar spells trouble for alot of things. Though that could just be because me as some who has been through shit and pestered by my BFF to do things outside of my comfort zone could have me looking at it different. Also I get the idea of someone telling you to drink water comes off as bad, but again my head tends to go to worst case scenario and I would rather be sober in areas like bars and clubs and not shitfaced drunk. or at least have more then just one sober friend at the party. Again though that could just be becuase I look at it as worst case scenario and I want everyone to be safe.

  • LaurenTiare
    LaurenTiare Il y a mois +12

    Ok to the Bride hiring the male strippers: Not everyone is going to be comfortable with male strippers dancing boisterously in their face. I believe that “June” has her reasons for not wanting to attend the party. I get it you (the bride) are the party type of person, but not everyone is going to put aside their “goody-two shoes attitude” as a means for supporting you. There was absolutely no reason for blowing up the way the bride did; let alone call June “a bad friend”. So, with that said: YES OP, you are the asshole for getting mad.

  • Lizet Elliott
    Lizet Elliott Il y a mois +39

    for the last story, I'm totally OP in that I would be asking others how they're doing and if they want to go back to the hotel. Not because it's necessarily how I'm feeling but because I genuinely don't want others to end up regretting things the next morning because I also know that I will be the first to say I told you so when you're fucked up the following more.
    So yeah...don't invite me to your bachelorette party if it's going to be a drinking free for all.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +1

      They also had stuff planned for the next day, so it does not make sense they'd want to drink so much the night before. Feels like OP was just worried about that, and wanting to make sure people would be well enough the next day.
      I don't have much sympathy for people who choose to get absolutely wasted, then moan about being sick the next day. Like, what did they expect?! 😂

  • zencat55
    zencat55 Il y a mois +20

    Sorry Charlotte, but a person should be able to politely decline a drink if they don't want it and without judgement. I don't drink alcohol and I always politely make that clear but people will still pour me a drink and get offended when I don't drink it. Alcohol is not about the other person's feelings. It is a deeply personal choice.

    • Veruschka Dahmer
      Veruschka Dahmer Il y a mois

      She didn't say that, she said that OP should have let her friends get drunk af if it was what they wanted 🤷
      I understand not being fond of alcohol. I drink mostly light beer and some wine, and I stop after 2 glasses because I know that I'll be sick otherwise. This being said, if my friends want to get drunk I won't patronize them. And if I feel tired I'll just go home without thinking twice, and I'll let the others have their crazy night lol

    • Effy
      Effy Il y a mois

      She didn’t state otherwise …

  • Marco Keller
    Marco Keller Il y a mois +7

    I was the only gay groomsmen in my best friends wedding party. He actually called me, said they were going to strippers and asked me if it was okay. I have no problems with it so I went but he was okay if I skipped. I went and all worked out but my friend would have been fine if I didn’t go.

  • Pat
    Pat Il y a mois +12

    I don't like Bachelorette parties. I avoid them. It doesn't feel good to force festivities on you, with too much booze. I don't drink and don't like being around drunks. I didn't have one, just had a nice dinner with my sister. I guess I'm a buzz kill.

    • Linda Hind
      Linda Hind Il y a mois +1

      @Pat: Me too! I got married so long ago that the Bachelorette party hadn’t been invented and I still don’t drink alcohol and really don’t like drunks. I’m your fellow buzzkill🧐!

  • CsDsG
    CsDsG Il y a mois +14

    For my bachelorette party, we went on a road trip, swam in a lake, went hiking, camped by a river and peed in the woods. We roasted marshmallows and had a few ciders.
    It was a complete surprise, but my friends and sister in me and I completely enjoyed it. My sister isn't comfortable with all the outdoor activities, but she did it for me, and I'll forever appreciate it!
    For her 19th birthday, I was the Designated Driver. It was a busy weekend, and she had an important event the next day. It got to the point where she was dancing with lesbians, very much out of the norm. She's very quiet and reserved. She came back to the table for her beer and I pushed a pitcher of water towards her, told her she had to finish the whole thing. It was after midnight at that point.
    She was tired the next day, but that was it. The leaders of the event kept talking loudly near her, but she was not hungover.

  • jme V.
    jme V. Il y a mois +6

    Asking a "friend" to compromise their values for your entertainment is incredibly entitled. Sucks they were made to feel bad for having standards and values in their relationship. I'm a party girl, but I would support my "friends" boundaries and just be happy to have her after the strippers.
    PS. Charlotte I Got My Petty Merch!! Love it too. Good quality.

  • sarahwithstars
    sarahwithstars Il y a mois +11

    Didn't the last girl mean she didn't want the shot but was forced to drink it even though it always made her sick and the other person was forced to drink it even though she did not have the capacity to say no to anything at that point? I think she meant compulsory shot instead of non consenting shot.

    • Mokiefraggle
      Mokiefraggle Il y a mois +6

      I think it was more that the person buying the round of shots didn't ask OP if she wanted one, didn't ask what type of shot she wanted (and as a result picked something that would make her sick), and from the sound of it was insistent that everyone take said shot. The other girl was in a state of inebriation that had her looking nauseous and like she might be well over the "safe" threshold of drunk, but when the OP had tried asking the other girls who looked exhausted/drunk to the point of sick/etc. if they maybe wanted to hang it up and do something a little less crazy, they all shot her down and continued getting plastered. I think "Non-consensual" isn't actually that far off a term here: nobody asked for the round of shots, OP didn't want one at all, particularly not the one she was given, "Girl B" wasn't in a good place to be having more alcohol and--judging by a general description of things--the whole group was drunk _well_ past the point where they could be considered as being in a mental state to consent to anything...on the one hand, it _was_ clearly compulsory, given that OP said she "shot it anyway", but it was also without her consent, and in a group who were in no fit mental state to be making such decisions.
      I honestly wonder at the fact that the bartender kept serving this group. Usually, bartenders have a point where they start cutting people off, and it sounds like the rest of this party was well past the point where they should've been cut off, if not kicked out.

  • msinvincible2000
    msinvincible2000 Il y a mois +5

    I find the american wedding traditions to be absurd, and I'm so happy that in my culture we don't have bachelorette parties, maids of honor, bridesmaids, bridal showers,... And the most absurd is that not only must they give a wedding gift to the bride and groom, but they also must pay for their bridesmaids expensive dresses, and travels and destination weddings. We have just the wedding (no rehersal dinners, no other parties, no breakfast after party) and we don't force people to spend money on us

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +2

      Yeah I'm glad I'm not american either. Here in Norway we have kids as bridesmaids (brudepiker) and groomsboys (brudesvenner) so I was a braidsmaid as a kid. The bride and groom are the ones who pay for everything, parents can gift them money for it. But it's their choice to get married so it's their expense, which is totally fair.

  • AMG
    AMG Il y a mois +5

    That first one was DEFINITELY from a Drag Queen! They know ALL TOO WELL about bachelorette parties. If you think a bunch of guys can be bad, you haven't witnessed the disgusting behavior entitled, drunk women who think it's their night can inflict on a performer. They will not only become rowdy (start yelling and making noise- that's sometimes encouraged) but they will think NOTHING of joining their favorite acts on stage as if they are a part of the show and be surprised when the performer doesn't want them their. Or, they just don't get the subtle hints and have to be dragged off the stage. Don't get me started on what they do while on stage or how they will grope said performers.
    Listen, please stop. Give my sisters a break and they will give you a truly special night! They are the performers for a reason. Also, you are not the only people there. These chicks ask for group rates and then act as if they have rented the whole place! STOP!
    One more thing... TIP THE QUEENS!

  • Matthew McKee
    Matthew McKee Il y a mois +11

    Why do we need to accept someone getting sloppy drunk like it's meaningful? The bridal shower doesn't make you look any less stupid! Most places outside North America it's really frowned on if you get shitfaced on purpose.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +1

      Exactly. As a Norwegian, I'm constantly baffled at US and their bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, gender reveal, baby showers, it's all so materialistic and just feels like "Give us lots of stuff!"

  • Eric Taylor
    Eric Taylor Il y a mois +4

    I think as soon as she said, "It's not about your comfort..." that would be enough for me to decide that the friendship was one sided and not worth maintaining.

  • Wanupgurl
    Wanupgurl Il y a mois +17

    i've been married for almost 7 years now. I had a terrible batchelorette party. no one but my Maid of honor showed up. I wanted something simple just boardgames and take out because I am not a club person or someone who drinks alcohol and I never asked for a redo so that bride is entitled and demanding.

    • nine
      nine Il y a mois

      @Wanupgurl yeah 100%

    • Kimberly Bone
      Kimberly Bone Il y a mois

      @Wanupgurl Aww thanks! You too! I'm nerdy too so we would have had a great time! Your maid of honor sounds like a fun, caring person.

    • Wanupgurl
      Wanupgurl Il y a mois +1

      @nine good point but stillsucks.

    • nine
      nine Il y a mois +2

      Yo that was really awful of them, but at least u know that they weren't real friends! Better to know then to not

    • Danielle King
      Danielle King Il y a mois +2

      @Wanupgurl I am not a party goer / drinker social crazy person either, but I would still show up as support and probably just hang out on the side and watch at best, lol

  • Sera Tonin
    Sera Tonin Il y a mois +11

    On a side note - who else is excited for when Charlotte gets married?
    I want to be at that bachelorette party! 🍾🥂🎉💕

  • Denise Nason
    Denise Nason Il y a mois +22

    A friend of mine worked a very popular drag club. One of the men guests accidently bumped one of the dancers during the opening. During the show, they made a point of taking his glasses off and kissing them. Both lenses were COVERED in red, sticky goo as payback. DONT PISS OF A DRAG QUEEN!!

  • jaspr1999
    jaspr1999 Il y a mois +35

    Work friends of my wifes' got her to go "Clubbing" which turned out to be a strip club. My wife called me once they were there (before cell phones) to tell me and I told her to have fun... She didn't. The whole experience just wasn't her cup of tea. Saying that she did get absolutely trashed. So much so that when the cab pulled up to bring her home we found her poured into the backseat. My buddy and I managed to get her inside and into bed and later she sat bolt upright yelling at me that she needed to call me for a ride home... And promptly passed out again. I found the whole thing hilarious. She, on the other hand, was bedridden for two days sick as a dog. 30 years later, she still recounts how miserable she was after that night.

    • Maria Garrett
      Maria Garrett Il y a mois +3

      @AnnaElisavetta Vonnedozza or she got trashed because she was so uncomfortable and drinking made it bearable

    • jaspr1999
      jaspr1999 Il y a mois +3

      @Crazy Cat Queen - No kidding! Yeah, the outing really did ruin any potential friendship with her coworkers. Luckily, she didn't have to deal with them much after that as she left that job.
      On a lighter note... When we first got together my wife was an extremely shy and introverted person afraid to express her opinion. Now, privately she's still an introvert, but she won't hesitate to tell someone how the cow ate the cabbage.

    • Crazy Cat Queen
      Crazy Cat Queen Il y a mois +3

      @jaspr1999 What the heck?! They couldn't be bothered to make sure she got home safely?? What kind of friend is that... 😞

    • jaspr1999
      jaspr1999 Il y a mois +1

      @AnnaElisavetta Vonnedozza - Maybe so, but the issue was more that she rode with them, an hour away from home, got her back to her coworkers' house and they put her in a taxi for the last leg home. I didn't include that as I didn't feel it was important to the events, but I guess it was.

    • AnnaElisavetta Vonnedozza
      AnnaElisavetta Vonnedozza Il y a mois +2

      Ya she was so uncomfortable she stayed & got trashed? LOL buddy I think she liked it a lot more than you think she did 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • Nneka Byron
    Nneka Byron Il y a mois +40

    Between the "killjoy" who was clearly too afraid to stand out and tried to pressure everyone else to agree with her, and the other "friends" who gossiped behind her back instead confronting the "killjoy" directly, the people in the last story all sound like they're too young to be drinking. Seriously, everybody was operating under high-school logic.

    • Dawn Chesbro
      Dawn Chesbro Il y a mois +1

      @momo momo building a supportive friend group doesn’t always happen easily. I really hope that person realizes she needs better friends

    • momo momo
      momo momo Il y a mois +1

      @Dawn Chesbro Exactly. Depending on my mood, I either get drunk (not blackout, just a fun amount) or I don't drink and end up leaving early, so I understand both sides. I also have social anxiety, so I understand how OP is feeling. OP needs to dump those friends, they're extremely juvenile and, eventhough they say they're her friends, they refuse to accommodate for both her social anxiety and her preferences. It's not hard to go outside with your friend so she can have a little bit of peace and air when you go to a club. It's not hard to make your friend with social anxiety comfortable with speaking up, and if you see them uncomfortable, it also isn't hard to ask if they're good when you know they would stay quiet to avoid standing out. These are basic friendship things and, with the way those friends we're acting, specially the gossiping, they really feel like highschoolers. When I'm in the mood to drink, I'm always thankful for the friends checking up on me, I don't call them negative, and when I'm the sober one, my friends make me comfortable enough to wanna stay sober or leave early when I feel like it. If I had friends like these, we wouldn't be friends for long.

    • Dawn Chesbro
      Dawn Chesbro Il y a mois +10

      While the "killjoy" definitely sounded like she could have worded her concern better, social anxiety shows up insidiously. For example, you're tired and uncomfortable and so you read others' fatigue as similar feelings, so you ask if they - like you secretly want to - would like to head home. That way you're giving others an "out" if they also want to go home. And because you can't voice your want to go home because of social pressure, social anxiety that makes you clam up under social pressure, you feel like you can't make your voice heard, so you go with the group for fear of ostracization. Shame her friends weren't more understanding of her condition.

  • floralovespringandflowers

    I can only repeat myself. This whole shebang with having bachelorettes and bridal showers and being absolutely over the top with your own wedding and the idea of having the most beautiful day of your entire life on your wedding day and to hire wedding planners etc. seems to be very much a thing of the English speaking world. Only recently because of the cultural influence did such stuff like bacholerette parties and bridal showers etc.make it to where I live. And with those sadly came people being over the top with it.
    But normally people doing that kind of stuff still behave normal and treat their guests with respect. You marry for love and to have a nice day with family and friends, not to be the star of your own sugar fantasy in which everybody has to look like, behave like and do whatever you want.
    You don't expect people to wear dresses only you like which they on top have to pay themselves, you don't expect everybody to read every wish from your lips and although you are the bride and groom (or groom and groom or bride and bride), you are usually still cool about it. I never saw a wedding with people being entitled about it so far and I have been to a lot of weddings.
    No offense though. I just don't like all that drama shown here.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +1

      As a Norwegian, this!
      And sounds like what matters in the US is the materialistic, all so tacky. It's seeping into our culture now too though. Before we would only have the actual marriage, then name ceremony for when the baby is born. Baby showers are becoming normal now though, so on top of the naming ceremony after the baby arrives, many now expect a baby shower with gifts before aswell. So greedy.

    • floralovespringandflowers
      floralovespringandflowers Il y a mois +1

      @Elli Bam Yes. Happy to hear that there are more "down to earth" weddings elsewhere.
      I live in Germany and there it is normally (!) exactly the same. Can't speak for super rich people though but usually people try to keep it simple cause marrying can be very expensive.
      But that also depends on the couple. I witnessed very different brides. I had some who wanted to keep their weddings as simple as possible cause they only had a little budget or were very modest people. And I had some brides who spent around 2000 Euros for their dresses alone (but still weren't Bridezillas).
      But among the people I met so far having a good time with family and friends was always the main goal of the weddings (appart from the legal stuff and love for each other that a wedding means).
      I am sure other Germans might have different views on this cause we are also a very multinational country by now but that is how I experienced weddings here.

    • Elli Bam
      Elli Bam Il y a mois +1

      Oh ye same. I’m from Switzerland, weddings are usually very humble, either at church, the courthouse or their own home/a garden. Usually starts at around 2pm and with a wedding celebration well into the night. That’s it. One day, no engagement, rehearsal or bachelorettes parties, little to no drama and huge budgets spent

  • James Willig
    James Willig Il y a mois +5

    I feel like a bachelor/ette party should be like an awards show for the wedding party hosted by the bride/groom.
    Each member could be nominated in a category that expresses how you feel about them, and the other nominees could be celebs, athletes and pop culture characters the party members love/hate?
    The wedding party could get dressed like they are walking the red carpet to avoid the 'saddest breakdance crew' look, and best part is the party members could get little awards, (party city, or make your own?) as a way for the bride and groom to say, 'Thank You'?
    IDK, just an idea, (that might explain why I'm 45 and single, lol!-)
    IDK, just an idea

    • Crazy Cat Queen
      Crazy Cat Queen Il y a mois

      Aww, this is a great idea
      Hope you are able to do this when you marry some day. You sound very thoughtful

  • CalexXelac
    CalexXelac Il y a mois +42

    This is the first channel I’ve ever immediately subscribed to and just binged for hours. You’re so entertaining, love your personality

    • Rachael Gibson
      Rachael Gibson Il y a mois +1

      Best decision you'll make darlin!

    • Melissa Fields
      Melissa Fields Il y a mois +2

      @ LOUISE JOHNSON im not entirely sure; because most of the host from top 10 central were on a previous channel. Can't recall the name.

    •  LOUISE JOHNSON
      LOUISE JOHNSON Il y a mois +1

      @Melissa Fields , was Charlotte a creator for that channel?

    •  LOUISE JOHNSON
      LOUISE JOHNSON Il y a mois +1

      @David Guidry it was accidental, but when it clicked, I was tickled.

    •  LOUISE JOHNSON
      LOUISE JOHNSON Il y a mois +1

      I thought that the bride got ONE day. Now you say that if someone's in pain at the stag, tough shit, you have to stay, and we have to put up with anything the bride wants, even vomiting on us. So that's two days, plus bridal shower(s), pre wedding luncheon(s), and whatever else can be dreamt up. So...?

  • Icarus Binns
    Icarus Binns Il y a mois +2

    Dude. I applaud June for being faithful to the rules she’s set, and that she’s explaining it. The ‘friend’ is no friend at all!

  • tats76
    tats76 Il y a mois +7

    I went to a bar with my friends and had a few too many drinks, but had a lot of fun dancing and the band even brought us on stage to sing (poorly) with them. My soon to be husband went race track driving with his buddies, then drank a bunch of beer and ate a bunch of wings. Pretty low key, but that was what we each wanted.

  • MitchRawr
    MitchRawr Il y a mois +7

    Tbf last one is kind of messy. Yes, she probably should have not bothered "gauging" if people wanted to take the party back "home"/end it early and rather just left if she didn't want to stay. Then again it seems like the Bride was diving headfirst into just getting black out drunk during the bachelorette. Having fun is one thing, but to get that drunk speaks volumes. Like ya got issues and maybe should see a therapist lol OP probably knows her limits, has done the "drunk" phase and has moved onto better ways to handle & enjoy her life. I'm sure my old friends would consider me a "party pooper", but that's why we arn't friends anymore lol

  • Peter Robson
    Peter Robson Il y a mois +16

    Just found your channel in the last few days..now my daughter and I are binge watching all your amazing content..long may it continue ❤️❤️

  • Anderson Barnett
    Anderson Barnett Il y a mois +2

    If Lucy is so hung up on having a trip with all her friends there, maybe she could pay for the entire trip to thank them for dealing with her demands during the wedding and remaining her friends.

  • Ralic Escobar
    Ralic Escobar Il y a mois +15

    Oh my God. Was attending my younger sister's Bachelorette party and we had gone to this bar and they happened to be having a night with male strippers. They were inviting people to come on stage for lap dances and one of her friends wanted to go just not by herself. Despite not being into men I opted to go up there with her and boy did I end up regretting it as the man literally ended up shoving my hand underneath his underwear...never again

    • Truth Seeker
      Truth Seeker Il y a 25 jours

      @Heather Miller (high five)

    • Heather Miller
      Heather Miller Il y a 26 jours +1

      @Ralic Escobar
      Like wtf?! I’d feel so violated if a guy did that to me. I would’ve went right off on him. Just disgusting 😫

    • Heather Miller
      Heather Miller Il y a 26 jours

      @Truth Seeker Oh my gosh, we’re so much alike it’s insane. Like seriously everything you wrote is JUST LIKE ME. So crazy lol 😜

    • Truth Seeker
      Truth Seeker Il y a mois +2

      @Antivenom Adams (high five)

    • Antivenom Adams
      Antivenom Adams Il y a mois +2

      @Truth Seeker I hear ya!☺🍀

  • AliCat452
    AliCat452 Il y a mois +6

    If/ When Charlotte has a bachelorette party, we can call it a “BaCharlotte” party!

    • AliCat452
      AliCat452 Il y a 26 jours

      @Lucieff Well, I’m a girl, but I will accept the dad mug. Thanks so much!

    • Lucieff
      Lucieff Il y a mois +1

      I have a medal for you... It says "No. 1 DAD"

    • Bernice C
      Bernice C Il y a mois +2

      Yes!

  • Trench15398642_14
    Trench15398642_14 Il y a mois +3

    I guess one of the good things about being a socially anxious, introverted hermit is that I've never been asked to be in any bridal parties.

  • Ashley Kateri
    Ashley Kateri Il y a mois +18

    Look I'm no prude but personally I feel like having strippers at your bachelor/bachelorette party is borderline cheating if you're monogamous. I mean under regular circumstances, if I walked in and my boyfriend was getting a lap dance from a half naked woman, I'd end it on the spot. I also doubt he'd be happy if a half naked man was grinding on me. I truly don't understand how that behavior is considered normal right before you get married.

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +2

      @Patricia Long When you're getting married you have been in a relationship for a good while, after all. One last night of freedom dosn't make much sense. 😅

    • Christine Lindberg-Gilhus
      Christine Lindberg-Gilhus Il y a mois +1

      Exactly. As a monogamous person, that kind of sexual energy is reserved between my partner and I. I would never be able to go to a strip club, would feel disrespectful af.

    • Patricia Long
      Patricia Long Il y a mois +3

      Supposed to be your last opportunity to cut loose before "the ball & chain". However the whole concept is dated as F..... most brides & grooms are hardly virginal and don't need to sow wild oats as they've probably been doing it already !

  • Toshi
    Toshi Il y a mois +2

    That stripper one made me instantly go to “well what if they were ‘going hunting’ for the party?”
    Would she still be forced to attend if it wasn’t her thing or would OP finally realise that everyone has different boundaries?
    As soon as someone says they’re not comfortable that should be the end of it.
    Respect others’ boundaries yall lol

  • Elithesià
    Elithesià Il y a mois +5

    All of these posts just make me more grateful for my SIL. She invited me to be in her wedding party and then completely understood when I said I couldn't go to the bachelorette party because I was in college (still am) and had a lot of work to do, along with the fact I didn't have my own car at that time. I was later able to make it to the rehearsal dinner no problem and then attended the wedding and had a great time.
    Bridezillas are so freaking crazy.

  • Trayolphia
    Trayolphia Il y a mois +6

    Thank you Charlotte, not only for the laughs, but for the assistance overcoming stamina walls in my nightly gym routine
    The cardio workout at the tail end of it goes for 15 minutes, and rather than feeling myself flag and contemplate giving up - I just chuck on your newest vid and the time goes past before I know it :)

    • Trayolphia
      Trayolphia Il y a mois +2

      @Juliet Garmin yeah…I find myself flagging about 10-11 mins into the 18 minute program on the cross fit or bike…having the vid to focus on helps distract the mind from the physical fatigue building :)

    • Juliet Garmin
      Juliet Garmin Il y a mois +1

      That's a fantastic idea 💡 👏

  • chronically ella
    chronically ella Il y a mois +2

    Went to a diversity show this week. Diversity being a very awesome British dance troupe.
    In fort of the seats my mum, sister and I were sat on was a group of four ladies dressed as ‘where’s wally’. I said to my sister maybe it’s a bachelorette party. Turns out two of the members have a radio show and told one of these ladies that they would give her 4 FREE tickets to the show,(which was amazing btw) if her and her friends would each come dressed up as ‘where’s Wally’. It was hilarious when the members announced it on stage!! 😂😂😂

  • Name the Stars 🌟
    Name the Stars 🌟 Il y a mois +1

    Just wanted to say thank you for these videos Charlotte. I actually fell to pieces today because I saw my wedding dress after trying to forget it existed, reminded me of what once was. So in a bit of a vulnerable place right now however your videos always brighten my mood when I need it the most 💕

  • Holly Pierce
    Holly Pierce Il y a mois +4

    I'm so glad that when I got married I wasn't a bridzilla! My husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves, and we did a cute ceremony in a bridal/flower shop, it was so beautiful because they matched the flowers to our colors, we also bought the reception centerpieces there, but it was so cheap because we weren't stuck with flowers that would just die and be wasted. And they were all very beautiful!!

  • Mark D
    Mark D Il y a mois +8

    Bachelorette parties are both a blessing and a curse for us musicians. On one hand, nothing gets the dance floor hopping like a group of drunk bachelorettes ready to party. They are ready to GO and from song #1 they are out there having a good time (and that pulls everyone else on the dance floor as well)... on the other hand, that comes with dealing with those same drunk girls requesting "Brown Eyed Girl" 87 times, or trying to climb up on stage (and spilling drinks over about $5000 worth of equipment) to twerk on the singer, stumbling drunk and knocking over part of the drum set, spiking drinks (happened to me once) or just being generally disruptive. It really can go either way, but whenever I see a bachelorette party walk in, I know the night is going to get interesting either way.

    • Nasty Nana
      Nasty Nana Il y a 10 jours

      @Mark D that is incredibly scary! And thank you for sharing. Unfortunately I guess we just can’t be to safe.

    • Mark D
      Mark D Il y a mois +1

      @Nasty Nana Was playing a gig and had my drink at the front of the stage. Wasn't really playing attention as the place was packed. Ended our first set, got off stage, finished my first drink, got a 2nd drink and brought it up on stage for the 2nd set. I remember playing the first song... and that is it. My guitar player said I was just leaning against the wall at the back of the stage, looking at my guitar like I had no clue what it was. Luckily one on my buddies who knows our setlist was in the audience. He jumped on stage, grabbed my guitar and finished the night. Apparently I could barely stand. Keep in mind at this point I only have had ONE DRINK. I made it home somehow. I was sick as a dog the next day and could only remember patches of the night. My band said I was talking and interacting with people, but looked like I had downed and entire bottle of whiskey. After some back and forth with my bandmates, we figured out that someone must have spiked the drink while it was at the front of the stage. Now band rules are all drinks are behind us. I guess it could have been worse, but still scary AF

    • Nasty Nana
      Nasty Nana Il y a mois +1

      Oof. Someone actually spiked your drink. What happened?

  • Jami Laycock
    Jami Laycock Il y a mois +2

    Yay! It's storytime with Charlotte! Funnest part of my day! I have a friend that is Indian her fam moved to the U.S. when she was 9ish... Traditional Indian weddings are a 3 day event with many things to do and smaller events in that time. She was having no part of it. They all discussed it and came to an agreement that it was up to the bride and groom as he is American and she was mostly raised here. They went with more of our traditional ideas but as a nod to her heritage and out of respect for her parents and family changed into traditional Indian attire after dinner. It was beautiful and a wonderful night! I was bridesmaid to my bestie since 3rd grade very much against her mother's plans. When I was helping tie on a special *something borrowed* to her dress to rep a great friend that had recently passed and that annoyed the mom as well. When she decided to yell at me that they are starting right now so get moving my girl shrugged and looked at me knowing I couldn't hold my tongue if I had it in a vice! I loudly informed her they can start of they would like but they weren't getting a bride until she was ready... If that meant I didn't dress or walk fine whatever. It's about the bride right now and we need a minute. She was pissed and ignored me after that while my girl hugged me and thanked me like crazy! Pretty sure I was there as her blunt mouthpiece because she had better things to do than deal with her beast of a mother.

  • 🖤Ali Ioana🖤
    🖤Ali Ioana🖤 Il y a mois +10

    Oooh so that’s why my bad ankle hurts! I broke it again running to this video bc I saw bridezillas😂

  • Christine the weird
    Christine the weird Il y a mois +21

    Weddings in general are stressful but its funny to hear the bs

  • lkayh
    lkayh Il y a mois +4

    There has to be a way to let the bride enjoy her Bachelorette party while still staying true to your own values or protecting your own health. If things start getting beyond your boundaries, maybe quietly excuse yourself-say you’re not feeling well or something of the kind that isn’t judgey, that explains your disappearance, that lets the festivities go on without you without anyone feeling guilty or judged. Not everything is about the bride, but it isn’t about YOU either. Try not to make a drama of it. Saying this as someone who WAS the ahole (or at least a bit of a jerk) at a hen party, who has since learned to be more tactful.

  • NiNiMeggie
    NiNiMeggie Il y a mois +3

    The was Charlotte reacted to the last story tells me I definitely don't want to go to any of those types of Bachelorette parties, Jesus Christ.

  • FallingFromWillows 511
    FallingFromWillows 511 Il y a mois +40

    I don’t see how anyone could actually enjoy themselves and their party knowing that someone they’re really close to, they’re good friend, is feeling super uncomfortable and nervous and really doesn’t like what’s going on.
    Like that break my heart. I just could never be okay with knowing someone I care about is feeling that way during my party.
    I don’t understand why that bride would seriously want to force her friend to attend her bachelorette party for its entire duration knowing that her friend would be feeling significantly uncomfortable and anxious for most of it. How is someone able to actually enjoy their party knowing that their friend is miserable?
    I can’t understand that concept. Why would this be something she’d even consider? Forcing her friend to stay for the entire party and knowing how uncomfortable she’d be?
    Mind blowing shit. I could never ever enjoy myself knowing someone I care about is not okay with the environment. How gross. How absolutely gross.

    • compositestechbb
      compositestechbb Il y a mois

      @Stefanie Schweigler lol, breathe...you took what I said way too seriously. I feel like you've been accused of being prudish and it still bothers ya. I'm sure your a hoot 👍

    • Stefanie Schweigler
      Stefanie Schweigler Il y a mois +3

      @compositestechbb why is it prudish if you don't want to see naked strangers? I'm so fed up with people calling others boring, kill-joys or prudish when they don't the enjoy the same things. I wouldn't like to go and see strippers, but my husband would call me the exact opposite of prudish. I hate excessive drinking, but I'm still fun at parties. Not everyone is the same and partying is not something people have to do. It's a choice, and it should stay tht way. Don't force others to do things they aren't comfortable with.

    • compositestechbb
      compositestechbb Il y a mois +1

      @Memaw knows best haha thanks Memaw 👍

    • Memaw knows best
      Memaw knows best Il y a mois +2

      @compositestechbb TAH means "The A** Hole"

    • compositestechbb
      compositestechbb Il y a mois

      @Memaw knows best I dont know what a TAH is but I agree. Just adding a different perspective, I didnt really analyze it too much.

  • Beau B
    Beau B Il y a mois +2

    18 years in on marriage, best day ever and I think it helped that my bridesmaids and myself just loved being together and having a fun day. People still talk about what a fun, laid back, beautiful day, this many years later

  • Quinn Kandu
    Quinn Kandu Il y a mois +31

    No matter the subject, Charlotte always entertains! Notification comes on and I click so fast lol

    • Trayolphia
      Trayolphia Il y a mois +1

      Same, she’s actually become an integral part of my gym workout…
      The end of routine cardio goes by much faster watching the newest vid

  • Anthony Anderson
    Anthony Anderson Il y a mois +3

    I love how Charlotte entertains us with these reaction videos but does not neglect to entertain herself at the same time. It really is delightful 😊

  • lizzfrmhon
    lizzfrmhon Il y a mois +1

    Ok to all you bridesmaids out there:
    “No, I can’t do that.”
    Is a full sentence.

  • K Lowe
    K Lowe Il y a mois +6

    My bridal party planned a pole dancing class for my bachelorette party, followed by karaoke at my mom's house and then going to a bar. Unfortunately, I had a migraine, so wasn't able to enjoy our pole dancing class. I do have fun memories of my mom trying some of the moves (OMG). Fortunately, the headache was gone for the later part of the evening at a local bar. Nothing truly extravagant, but good memories.

  • Michael Singletary
    Michael Singletary Il y a mois +2

    Yea! More Bridezillas. May favorite reactions. As always, TY for all the laughs. it so helps me with my depression. Luv you Miss Charlotte. You are a Godsend

  • Jennifer M Davis
    Jennifer M Davis Il y a mois +8

    I feel like the one girl who was “policing” the bachelorette party sounds like me. I’m autistic and very blunt, and I can seem patronizing without meaning to. She seemed oblivious in the moment and that is me as well. I don’t “get” social cues or gossiping ITM. I’m surprised it surprised her. She’s not very self aware either. Is she the AH? Maybe. It wasn’t her job to police her friend. I just got so much deja vu from this post.